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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    Has anybody in this thread said they thought the apparent situation was ok? It's more that we think the author is just full of it.

    Something that is definite though and that I completely do not agree with for the safety of her children? Posting pictures of them publicly and tagging the location.
    No but they have said they would side with lattemum over judgymummy and what judgymummy did was worse.

    And I agree with your last paragraph, I have a public Insta account but never have and never will post photos of my kids for this reason (well I might take a non-identifying photo of them if I'll post anything.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by A-Squared View Post
    No but they have said they would side with lattemum over judgymummy and what judgymummy did was worse.

    And I agree with your last paragraph, I have a public Insta account but never have and never will post photos of my kids for this reason (well I might take a non-identifying photo of them if I'll post anything.)
    If it truly was that distressing and dangerous of a situation then I do completely judge her for leaving it as is. And that is why I think she's exaggerating, because surely if it was that bad and she felt that strongly about it, she would have approached the mom much earlier.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Full House View Post
    She also has a photo of her daughter with her 'make up themed' birthday cake, with 'princess *name*' on it. Her daughter is off doing dancing clases and getting cakes made with a makeup theme, while her son is off doing karate and soccer lessons.
    Plus, her instagram is so public that I can access all of it, and don't even have an instagram account. Which means her kids photos could be in the hands of absolutely anybody.
    Those in glass houses...
    The mum sounds like a dingbat - grooming her daughter for a life if second class citizenship.
    Seems like one dingbat calling another dingbat out. Battle of the dingbats.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    If it truly was that distressing and dangerous of a situation then I do completely judge her for leaving it as is. And that is why I think she's exaggerating, because surely if it was that bad and she felt that strongly about it, she would have approached the mom much earlier.
    Or she's telling the truth, and watched distressed kids for 15 minutes without taking any action to try and help them because her priorities were on shaming the mother, and not helping distressed kids. It's vile behaviour either way.

    As for pointing out her instagram acc etc. I have done so because it makes it clear that everyone draws a line in the sand as to what is and isn't okay to do as a parent. If these two mothers had police involvement of any kind they would probably both get a lecture in safety...one for leaving kids in the car, one for the dangers of the internet. Both are taking risks with their children, the risks are different sure, but there are risks all the same.
    I'm not going to drag lattemum over the coals when I haven't heard her side of the story. The author has put her life on the net for all to see, and blogged her participation in the lattemum scenario (which makes me wonder if she's exaggerating to make her point, or if she really is that awful that shaming takes places of helping kids). I'm not going to drag her over the coals for her parenting choices (even though I don't agree with them either), but it definitely makes me take what she wrote in her blog with a grain of salt.
    My response would be different had she gone to lattemum and told her the kids were distressed and jumping through the car and lattemum told her that this was routine and didn't even look in the kids direction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    If it truly was that distressing and dangerous of a situation then I do completely judge her for leaving it as is. And that is why I think she's exaggerating, because surely if it was that bad and she felt that strongly about it, she would have approached the mom much earlier.
    Maybe it was a 7/10 on the distress scale and the threshold for intervention is 9/10? Even if it was only a 7/10 that doesn't remove responsibility from the latte mother for putting the kids in that situation. The buck stops with the parent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    The mum sounds like a dingbat - grooming her daughter for a life if second class citizenship.
    Seems like one dingbat calling another dingbat out. Battle of the dingbats.
    This made me lol. Yep, I was thinking the same ^^ but in less well mannered terms For me, they are both at fault. lattemum is knowingly putting her kids at risk (and referencing the other thread - on my culpability scale, this doesn't score well as she is placing her kids in an inappropriate situation). Sanctimummy is well, sanctimonious and is clearly one of those women that bolster their own self worth as a parent and human but putting others down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mama Mirabelle View Post
    I've been following this thread along and have just been liking posts that I agree with because I really don't even know how to begin to jump in here. I'll probably get crucified by some but I think the whole article is so sanctimonious and the actual act of leaving kids in a car and popping into a cafe to pick up a take away coffee so not even worth the effort it's taking us all to argue about this.

    I genuinely doubt things went down exactly as the author has written them. If the mum in question gave such little care for her children that she'd leave them for 15 mins 'distressed' and chatting away without batting an eye why would she go to the effort of parking right outside and leaving the aircon running. A $hit parent would just park out of eyesight and lock them without a second thought.
    Me too.
    While I'm definitely not condoning what the mum did. The tone of this article just doesn't sit right.
    The ages of the kids would also make a huge difference, and what does distressed mean exactly?
    When I leave my 2 in the car to pay petrol or something to say they sometimes look distressed is an understatement, I probably look like I don't care but it's because I know them and can tell it's either name calling or DD won't help ds open his lollipop or something.

    I think if this women was generally concerned why not call the mum or offer some sort of help.

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    Kids left in cars posts always fascinate me. A study was done recently that showed that our perception of risk increases in situations where we consider a person to be morally culpable. For example, if a child is left alone in a car for 15 minutes so mum can get a latte, we will perceive the risk as greater than we would if mum was in a car accident and lying unconscious on the roadway.

    As a non driver I find it interesting, not what we do judge, but what we don't. For example, fatigue kills more people on the road than almost anything, yet over and over again I hear my fellow mums look back on the sleepless newborn days and say 'I really shouldn't have been driving, I wasn't in a fit state for it'. My first thought is 'well why the **** were you then?' That is incredibly dangerous and far riskier than leaving a kid in a cool car for 15 minutes while you grab a coffee. Yet we don't judge because society has not (hopefully yet) deemed the actions to be immoral.

    I think this woman did something that was dangerous, but not as dangerous as many other things that most of us have no issue with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sally1981 View Post
    As a non driver I find it interesting, not what we do judge, but what we don't. For example, fatigue kills more people on the road than almost anything, yet over and over again I hear my fellow mums look back on the sleepless newborn days and say 'I really shouldn't have been driving, I wasn't in a fit state for it'. My first thought is 'well why the **** were you then?' That is incredibly dangerous and far riskier than leaving a kid in a cool car for 15 minutes while you grab a coffee. Yet we don't judge because society has not (hopefully yet) deemed the actions to be immoral.
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    I remember getting in a tiff on BH a few years ago because I posted I thought it was irresponsible for severely sleep deprived parents to drive.

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    One of the threads. I admire Fearless Leader for her stance in this one.


 

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