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    Default Do you let your children win?

    When you play board games?

    Context - DD (5) and I were playing Beetle. Being a game of chance she won 4 in a row. Come the 5th and last game I won. Cue crying and running about and changing out of her Elsa costume and into her Anna one because she can't be Elsa anymore because she lost. Yes, she has a flair for dramatics.

    DH is a 'let her win' guy while I think learning to lose is a good skill. As someone who is competitive its one I wish I had learnt better.

    What do you do?

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    DS is 6 and we try and occasionally have him lose, mostly to teach him that winning isn't everything, that its ok to lose and sometimes you will... Obviously as he grows there will be plenty of times where he wont win at something and I hope he'd be graceful about it and able to cope.

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    I let ds (5) win most of the time, but throw in the odd win for myself. They do need to learn that they can't win all of the time.

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    Dd5 is exactly the same I let her win 2 out of 3 on every game. Cue drama and tears! When someone else wins. Luckily it gets better with more playing.

    It took a good 6months of infrequent playing for DD to understand she is not always going to win and that it's ok!

    Good luck.


    We only played infrequently because DD was mortified she couldn't win all the time. One time she won. Next time dad won and then me. Then we let her have a run of wins then started changing it up a bit. The disenchantment is still there but less frequently.

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    Nope! We play properly and it's made DS try harder. We now play board games and he quite often wins on his own

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    I let DS win about half the time. Losing with grace is a trait my children will hold.
    DS wins monopoly by himself half the time so it's not a big deal here, he doesn't mind losing.

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    We're the same as Zeddie. We'll help them to make a better game (once they move beyond snap etc), but we don't let them win.

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    Nope. They lose they have to deal.

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    Nope.
    My DD is 4 and I don't let her win, except when we're running/racing etc.
    Consequently she's never won a game of naughts and crosses, but she regularly wins some card games. She still loves playing, even when she loses.

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    We let him lose. It's an important skill and life experience.


 

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