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    Default Work Question: Stay or go?

    I'd ask to reduce down to 2 days and if they can't offer that I'd leave x

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    I'd leave. It isn't worth the stress, and your kids are only little for such a short amount of time. No one should be crying most evenings because of work, and being miserable and exhausted all the time when you don't have to be seems like a recipe for disaster (also not something you want to teach your kids).

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    So you work 4 days a week but then you also work on your day off? So really you're working 5 days! Do you get paid for the extra work? I would try cutting down to only 3 days max with at least 3-4 proper days off, then after a month or so see how it goes. But by the sounds of it your employer may not be flexible (due to them putting you in a position where you are working on your day off) so it may be time to quit and move on. No wonder you're stuggling to stay on top of everything!

    Eta. If you work for a big company/organisation it might be a good idea to check out their policies regarding flexible work.

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    If financially you can manage it I would either reduce hours or leave.

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    Default Work Question: Stay or go?

    I'd leave. I've been in a job that had me stressed and miserable. I was single, so I sucked it up until I found somewhere else.

    But I think if I had kids I hardly ever saw, was expected to work on my day off and had an unsupportive manager, I'd chuck it in. Life's too short for that. If you can manage financially, go back to uni for sure. You'd be working towards a better future. You could always do a couple of night shifts at a supermarket for extra $$ if things get too hard.

    Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheGooch View Post
    I'm so sorry you're feeling like this.
    Big hugs xxx
    It's really hard when you're in this kind of situation to know what to do sometimes.
    We can help! There's smart hubbers here and we can support you.
    A couple of questions I have:
    Are you getting any time off over Xmas? Without having to look at emails or work at all? That might give you a break to think it through and discuss with your DH?

    Are you paid for the time you spend on your day off checking emails etc?

    Is there an HR person you can talk to rather than your manager to discuss a flexible work arrangement?

    What would be the ideal for you? Drop one day so you're working 3 days? Or drop 2 days and work 2?

    I know there's no point working if you're just paying the money out to others, but does the money mean you can outsource some housework stuff so that when you're home, the time you spend with family is not spent on those things?

    If you quit, will it cause financial hardship and therefore more stress?

    I'm sorry if these have been answered before. I can't remember seeing them.

    I agree with others, life's too short to have this much stress. And I would quit too if something can't be resolved. But if there's a way to make it work better for you, that would be great too xxx
    No time off over the break, I'm saving my leave for DDs first week of school. But it should be pretty quiet at work.

    I get paid for 4 days, I check emails etc on my day off because otherwise things slip and I need to stay on top of it. Nature of the job unfortunately.

    I can't do less than 4 days, there are no other part time people in this part of the business so doing 4 days is the bare minimum really.

    We have a weekly cleaner which helps enormously at the moment. I would have really struggled without her!

    Quitting will make things tighter but won't cause hardship. We have some options, like selling an investment property or some shares, things like that. We have enough savings to cover about a year of mortgage payments but shouldn't have to touch much of that unless we want to do more to the house.

    I ended up having a good chat to my manager today, she dealt with it far better than I expected so I'm glad I discussed it with her. She said we can explore other roles in the company which I think is a good starting point. I'm supposed to be getting a new account in the new year so she's going to introduce me as an "interim" so that I can have a little more time to decide before committing to the client.

    I am leaning towards quitting if there are no other roles available that would suit, and I think that's the best decision. I don't want to be unhappy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cue View Post
    No time off over the break, I'm saving my leave for DDs first week of school. But it should be pretty quiet at work.

    I get paid for 4 days, I check emails etc on my day off because otherwise things slip and I need to stay on top of it. Nature of the job unfortunately.

    I can't do less than 4 days, there are no other part time people in this part of the business so doing 4 days is the bare minimum really.

    We have a weekly cleaner which helps enormously at the moment. I would have really struggled without her!

    Quitting will make things tighter but won't cause hardship. We have some options, like selling an investment property or some shares, things like that. We have enough savings to cover about a year of mortgage payments but shouldn't have to touch much of that unless we want to do more to the house.

    I ended up having a good chat to my manager today, she dealt with it far better than I expected so I'm glad I discussed it with her. She said we can explore other roles in the company which I think is a good starting point. I'm supposed to be getting a new account in the new year so she's going to introduce me as an "interim" so that I can have a little more time to decide before committing to the client.

    I am leaning towards quitting if there are no other roles available that would suit, and I think that's the best decision. I don't want to be unhappy.

    It sounds like you have considered all the options. I think given your update, quitting sounds like the best plan if they can't find anything with less hous. As others have said, life is too short to be unhappy. Best of luck xxx

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    It sounds like financially you won't be disadvantaged or struggling to make ends meet, so in this situation, I would say absolutely to quit.

    Your career won't suffer if you're studying to get ahead, your DH seems very supportive too, so in your exact situation, I would quit too.

    Life's too short to spend stressed, in traffic and away from home that much.

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    Leave. Life is too short to be so stressed and to miss out on your kids. If you couldn't pay the bills then that would make it tough, but you can. Obviously this is just my own personal stance, but you can always add to your super/ buy another property/ buy expensive stuff when the kids are older. You can't get back time with them, and it's so very fleeting.

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