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    I would personally be very upset. I told DH that in the event of an emergency, if I had to go under GA or was unable to meet my baby for some reason, that NO-ONE was allowed to come in to the hospital or see the baby (except him) until I was ready and gave it the OK. I would be furious if family all came in and passed the baby around before I got the chance to see the baby, or have a cuddle and feed. And I know our family would be so smug about it. I was very adamant to DH that if I were incapacitated, he was not to drop the ball on this issue.

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    I'm lucky too that I will deliver where I work so I know my work friends will barricade the hospital if they have to to stop it happening to me. But it is still a very real fear of mine. I've already told DH I don't even want to announce it until we are back on the postnatal ward and have had the chance to spend some quality time together as a family of 3.

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    Quote Originally Posted by M'LadyEm View Post
    I read this article on the weekend. I would be devastated. It is actually one of my biggest fears for when I have my baby. The birth plan I have created in my head actually revolves more about what I want in a critical emergency situation and this is something I have said to DH over and over again. I have looked after women (well their partners and babies) who have ended up in ICU for whatever reason and when I take the baby across to them to feed/cuddle etc you can see how desperate they are to have their babies, even more so after hearing their partners tell them about all the people who have come to see them on the ward. One woman sticks in my mind after her DH and sister kept telling her what an amazing job the DH was doing, how he was changing all these nappies, giving bottles when they couldn't get across to ICU (as a midwife had to escort them over there and there wasn't always someone available), and just generally being super dad. They basically gave the woman the impression that she didn't need to be there. The look on her face was heartbreaking. When I was in ICU with her I would actually make myself a physical barrier between the woman and her baby and her DH and sister because I was so desperate for mum to have skin to skin and cuddles and help to express. I don't think they realised how they were making her feel when they kept trying to pick the baby up off her, or touch the baby or whatever. I felt like saying to them "just leave them alone to have some time together, go away already!" It's something that I'm so emotionally invested in.
    I have photos of DHs family all meeting baby laughing and smiling while I was fighting for my life in the ICU after 4 hours of surgery to stop PPH. Makes me feel a little sick. I had already had a hold of baby but only very briefly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bezzy View Post
    I have photos of DHs family all meeting baby laughing and smiling while I was fighting for my life in the ICU after 4 hours of surgery to stop PPH. Makes me feel a little sick. I had already had a hold of baby but only very briefly.
    That's really awful. How disrespectful!

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    Quote Originally Posted by bezzy View Post
    I have photos of DHs family all meeting baby laughing and smiling while I was fighting for my life in the ICU after 4 hours of surgery to stop PPH. Makes me feel a little sick. I had already had a hold of baby but only very briefly.
    See this just breaks my heart. I really wish we had the resources available to have a midwife available to keep baby in ICU with mum so she could still have regular skin to skin and express/BF, or at least be able to bring baby across every 2-3hrs. Of course this is just wishful thinking.

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    I've had two csections and plenty of people help both my children before I did, now they are 6 and 3 I honestly don't even think it matters that much if at all. But I am very relaxed about that sort of thing, it doesn't change my relationship with them, I'm always going to be their mum.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    I think it was a bit of a brain fart on the tv presenters side but not a hangable offence.
    This. A lapse in judgement but hardly the crime of the century.

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    I'd be devestated! It would add an extra layer of trauma to an already incredibly traumatic experience.
    I had an EMCS in 2012 and my husband knew not to let anyone touch the baby until we'd been reunited (some hours later). As horrible as it is there are photos of him in the NICU holding him & with him beside the crib and I hate to look at them and he's my husband! I would feel beyond robbed of those precious moments. I am not big on people in general holding my babies, I'm not one to pass them around or as DH says 'I'm not a good sharer of my babies' lol

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    Default Discuss: TV presenter holding newborn before mother.

    I hate one one-sided reporting, as we can only go on what is intimated and not know for sure how the actual Mum feels in this situation.

    That said and because of the furore, I have no doubt the Mum will probably speak soon (if she hasn't already).

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    Default Discuss: TV presenter holding newborn before mother.

    Quote Originally Posted by PipersMummy View Post
    I've had two csections and plenty of people help both my children before I did, now they are 6 and 3 I honestly don't even think it matters that much if at all. But I am very relaxed about that sort of thing, it doesn't change my relationship with them, I'm always going to be their mum.
    Love this !


 

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