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    Don't know what I would have done in that specific situation...probably would have gotten him out. Honestly though, either way I don't see a problem. There's no single way to parent, and you're in no way putting anyone in danger, so any judgement is uncalled for. Do whatever works for you and your family

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    You need to do we what works for you. My ds1 was so spirited i simply could not have ever taken him to something like that. I have let go of a 20 year friendship over issues like this- her children were perfect and never moved a foot wrong. Mine couldn't be contained the same way and the criticisms came. It was a huge downer for years...

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    I would have let my DS out. But he is not a runner. So for us it would work.

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    I would have done pretty much the same.

    With Dss it worked better to be the firm rigid parent, but it's just not really me.

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    You did exactly what I would've done

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    Sounds like you handled it perfectly to me. I would have done the same. I only enforce sitting in pram, table, car seat etc if absolutely necessary (usually for safety or of running late). Toddlers don't want to sit still!

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    I think what you did sounds fine.

    Can I just suggest that this friend of yours that judges and appears to push her opinion onto others is very possibly struggling with her own parenting. I find that mums who are coping well and totally comfortable with their parenting decisions pay little attention to what others are doing. Those who spend lots of time worrying if they are doing the right thing and feeling guilty about not being perfect are the ones who seem to judge others.

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    What you did was great and I'd have done the same. Don't worry about the other woman and her opinions. Sounds like you're a great mum! 👍

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    Hey it all depends in the child and what they (independent of the parents desires) are capable of.

    My only advice would be to not judge the other mum for her different approach, just as you do not wish to be judged for yours.

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    Thank you so much girls!!! I called her a friend but it's actually my sister-in-law... so I don't have much choice but to put up with her. I definitely agree she questions her own parenting (as I do with mine) and that's what makes her judge others. I have heard her ***** a lot about other people's parenting and that's why I get worried she's *****ing about mine too. @VicPark you're probably right that I judge her a little but I also respect her because she is a great mum and her kids are the absolute most gorgeous kids!!

    I totally agree with the person who said that kids aren't robots, and that's what I thought. I CHOSE to take him to the pram walk, he had no choice about it, so I thought it would be a bit mean to force him to stay in the pram miserable. If it had been down to safety (like staying in his carseat) I would have left him in there but really there was no reason he HAD to stay in it (except my poor arms haha he's 12.5kg!)

    I hope one day I can be secure/confident enough in my parenting style that I don't question myself so much!! Thanks again ladies xx

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