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    Hi everyone - this is my first time posting on a forum like this as someone TTC. Previously it was for support for my PCOS and wishing I was TTC, now I'm actively TTC and not getting anywhere just yet.

    We are in our fifth month of TTC. I've been tracking my cycles for years, and because of the PCOS i can be anywhere from 28 days to 90 days. For the last 12-18 months I've been reasonably regular, 28-36 days.

    I've got a pretty good handle on roughly when I'm ovulating - I call it "magical mucus" and we BD as much as possible. We both work long hours at stressful jobs, so its not as regular as we'd probably want, but over fertile window its every second day. I keep telling DP that he just needs to keep me full lol.

    I bought some cheapie OPK's, but i think they might be too cheap. I've never had even a squinter. And with the PCOS and the unpredictability of my cycle I haven't wanted to waste the money on ClearBlue digital yet.

    I have a thermometer for BBT, but i know you need to have a solid sleep and take it before you move. I don't sleep solidly - I suffer from mid insomnia and so I sleep for 2-3 hours, wake up for 1-2 hours, then sleep again until alarm. So I don't know if BBT will help, I don't think I'll get accurate readings. Is it worth doing anyway?

    I'm trying to watch my diet as best I can. We travel 2 hours each day to get to work and as mentioned above, very stressful jobs. Dinner is where we fall down, I often can't be bothered and DP can't cook so we end up with takeaway. Add on that i'm an emotional eater and dive for the bad food when i'm stressed. I've just started with a trainer who will be monitoring my food so i'm hoping that will help too.

    My dr is great, but she's being adamant about having 6 months of documented trying before she'll send me on for cycle tracking. Which is frustrating because i've been sexually active for 12 years, all in long term relationships, and barely used protection ever and have never even had a whoopsie.

    My partner has a son from a previous relationship, so we know his boys work.

    I take 2000mg of metformin each day and i've been taking blackmores conceive well for about 8 months now.

    Is there anything else I could be doing to increase our chances? I've tried some herbal stuff in the past to try and relieve my PCOS symptoms but at times it made them worse (Vitex made my hair fall out!). I just want this so badly, and i know 5 months is nothing, but when you're the first in your family to go through something like this its hard because of no support. My sister just had to think about having kids and she was pregnant, same for my mum and grandma. And then I get the tough end of the stick and the universe saying "nah, you can't have this"

    Sorry for the long post. I've had a weird few days and this is all on my mind more than ever.

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    Hi there, I have PCOS and a long road to get to 2 kids but I had a few thoughts/ tips which worked for me. Obviously just my own experience.
    - my body needed vigorous exercise to become more fertile. No walks, swimming etc it had to be Bootcamp and the like.
    - just a note that you often ovulate roughly 14 days counting back from when your period started. Might be obvious but early in my TTC journey I though you ovulated mid cycle. So in my 36 day cycles I really ovulated around day 22 not around day 18.
    - are you overweight? Research suggests even dropping 5% of body weight when TTC is helpful
    - do you have a retroverted uterus? If so doggy style will be best (sorry for tmi)
    - I'd invest in some better quality OPK's and start trying to chart on an app.
    - if you don't have any luck after a few more months, a dye test to check tube patency might help
    - what about lite n easy (choosing low carb low GI options or similar) for healthier dinners? Or cook up a few batches of dinners on a Sunday and freeze to have during the week?
    Good luck !!
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    I've found that a strict exercise regime, of just some sort of activity, in the past has helped. Lately I'm just so worn out that I can't get the motivation to even just go for a walk. I've had a massively emotional year which is why I'm having the mid-insomnia which isn't helping with anything!

    When I figure out that I'm ovulating, through cervical mucus and/or pain and other symptoms its generally 14-15 days later that AF shows. But I do wonder if my body is just thinking it's ovulating? Last month i had a slightly longer cycle and i thought i was O'ing, but then the next week had the same symptoms and then AF came 14 days after the second set. So either i O'd twice, somehow, or my body tried to, failed, then tried again?

    I am overweight and my weight goes up and down and my cycles get longer when my weight is up and shorten when i get it slightly under control.

    Hoping when I go and see the dr in a few weeks she'll refer me on for a few tests. At the very least an ultrasound - every other time i've had one i haven't had any cysts or evidence of them, hence why it took 10+ years to finally get a PCOS diagnosis. Half my symptoms were more like i had endo, pain and bleeding, and hormone wise i was always just above normal range and no dr until my current wanted to say yay or nay to PCOS. Funny how once they did and started treating it all the symptoms went away. I've gone from having to have 2 days off work every month because i'd be chained to the toilet for bleeding so bad, to being relatively normal.

    I've tried batch cooking in the past and I can't do reheated food. I don't eat leftovers, they all go to my partner for lunches lol. I've had a look at Lite n Easy and a few others like that (YouFoodz) and the biggest issue I have is just simply that I'm out of the house too long. I get home anywhere between 6pm and 8pm, so if the food was delivered first thing it could be sitting outside for 8 hours. I know they're delivered in an esky type thing, but its only recommended for 4-5 hours max. And I can't get it delivered to work and probably couldn't send it anywhere else.

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    This may be a little left field but have you considered acupuncture?

    My best friend has PCOS and after endless years of TTC, she started acupuncture. Her body would "ovulate" but the egg would never leave the ovary and would remain causing a small cyst.

    Within a few months of acupuncture she properly ovulated and fell pregnant.

    Note that this is just her story and may not be there same for the next person but I have been having acupuncture for 2 months now (also TTC) and for me, it's really helped me cope with work stress (I work in a high stress environment too) and also helps me sleep better. These factors may help you on your ttc journey

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    Hi hun I have pcos and don't ovulate on my own at all or get any sort of natural period. My GP refered me quite quickly into a specialist for that reason l. If I were you I would be demanding that referal too and if your GP won't refer you can you find another who will. We have been ttc no.2 now for 4 years and time is so precious in this fertility game don't waste any of it. You have a right to know if you are actually ovulating and what is happening in your body. My GP had me tracking my cycle only to be told by the fertility specialist I was probably wasting my time as my hormones were all over the place and it wasn't showing anything (this isn't the case for everyone). Its good you have been put on the metformin though that is usually the first course of action. I hope you get some answers soon hun xx

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    I've been contemplating acupuncture, just want to find the right place to do it. I've been looking and trying to find somewhere near work that I might trust. I'm not a big fan of needles. But i'm nowhere near as bad as i was several years ago.

    I've got an appt with my GP on Thursday. She's pretty good, the best dr i've had in 12 years and I'd rather stick with her. See what happens. Worst case scenario she only wanted 6 months of concentrated trying before referring me, so i'm very close and maybe she might do me the referral to do early in the new year (no way i'm getting there before Christmas!)

    Partner was saying last night that he's happy to go get checked first, which is sweet but we know i'm the problem. He has a son already, we know his boys work. There is the slight possibility that his count might have decreased, but i highly doubt it. I'm the problem here. Thankfully we see the same GP and have consent to talk about each other with her, so she might even give me a referral for him first, then do me next year. Wait and see I guess.

    For now i'm just waiting for AF to show. If the tracking app is right, and it's usually reasonably close, I'm about 7 days off. I've had zero symptoms of anything this month and even though partner is convinced that one particular night "did it" I'm not. I'll only test if AF doesn't show by Christmas, lately I've never been more than a week out of sync with what the tracking app thinks.

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    Go to a different GP and say you've been trying 8m.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    Go to a different GP and say you've been trying 8m.
    Took me ten years to find a good gp, I don't want to lose her going behind her back!

    Feeling very frustrated at the moment - had a faint line on an opk a week ago, nothing since and yesterday and today I've had so much cm. But nothing on opk. Slight cramping too, more like twinges.

    And of course Dr Google tells me that's it either o or early signs of pg. Had the most vivid dream last night of being in hospital with my partner post delivery and clearly saw our baby. That was before googling. The dream is why I started googling lol

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    How old are you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    How old are you?
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