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    Default Postnatal Depression/Anxiety

    Hello, my little Bub is close to 7 weeks and I have PND mixed with Anxiety. I am seeing a counsellor and trying to be relatively drug free, wondering if anyone can share some experiences on how they got better as sometimes it feels like one step forward two steps backward but that is the PND talking. I am much better than a month ago but I guess I would like to get further along quicker

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    I had PTSD and anxiety after my first born. My 2nd baby is now 4 months and although I still have anxiety it is much more controlled...
    A few things that I find help:
    write a list of things to accomplish each day (don't make it too long or you will beat yourself up over it!). So..maybe vac floors, do the folding, clean bathrooms.
    - have a quick shower to refresh each morning... (and I put on some tinted moisturiser/bb cream and mascara to feel nice about myself)
    -having a big drink of cold water with lemon each morning
    - essential oils! Diffusing them and roller blends (I like doterra)
    -a small glass of kombucha each day
    -taking vitamins (I do a multi vitamin and iron and fenugreek as I get anxious about milk supply)
    - get some sun every day for at least 10 mins (even just have morning coffee outside)
    - magnesium oil spray or bathe in Epsom salts/magnesium
    flakes (low magnesium linked with anxiety)
    - try and get out of house even just for a walk around the block
    - talk with someone you trust (close friend/husband)
    - try and have some 'me time' once a week. My husband takes the kids out for a couple of hours for me to have a bath and sleep or I go for a massage or to the shops or out with friends or whatever I feel like doing..

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    Subbing to reply a little later.

    Hugs. It's a sucky road to travel.

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    sorry your suffering . I had post natal anxiety it was horrible. I didn't know what it was for about 8 months and just suffered with being sick at the drop of a hat. for me though I went on the drugs which helps so so much..

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    Apparently it is pretty common for PND to present with Anxiety symptoms.
    I had to go straight to meds. I left it too long (wasn't officially diagnosed til 9 months post partum though had discussed it with my GP at 4.5 months) and was having panic attacks, since I was alone with DS, with very limited support (we'd only been in the area a few months), it was important that I do everything I could to stop that ASAP.

    The most important thing that I needed to hear is something that I am going to tell you now. You are a good mum. You are more than the sum of your symptoms. Trust youself. Ignore the people who tell you you're doing it all wrong (easier said than done I know). You are the expert of your child. Don't doubt yourself. If you can't tell yourself this in your lower moments, print this off and read it every day.
    My son didn't sleep much. I had so many people telling me I just needed to do this, or this, or this. I tried it, even though I didn't think it would work, or it didn't sit well with me. It just made me more miserable. You aren't making a rod for your back and you can't spoil a baby. That said, if you're starting to lose it, bub won't suffer from being left to cry in the bassinet for a few minutes while you step out and calm down.

    I would try to get out of the house at least every second day. Sometimes every day was too hard and I found the pressure I put on myself didn't help.

    If you're having a sh**ty day, honestly, just leave the house work. It will still be there. When people come to visit, get them to do stuff like hanging/bringing in/folding washing, prepping dinner, making you a cuppa and letting you sit.

    Find someone that you can be honest with. I joined PANDSI in Canberra. They had support groups, absolutely no judgement, and gosh I love those ladies. If you can find a PND support group in your area, join it. I know it's scary and hard to put yourself out there, but every one of those women have been where you are.

    I found if I put a little effort in to getting myself ready to go out (even if I wasn't going to go out), it helped me feel more myself. I felt so lost and confused and so not myself that I found it really helped me not just feel like mum.


    See if you can find a counsellor or psych who specialises in or has a special interest in PND and anxiety. PANDA has a list of people across Australia that might be of benefit. Give them a call. They are brilliant. And practice the techniques they discuss with you when you're not in the middle of a panic attack, when your anxiety is low and manageable. That way you can employ them easier when you can't think straight.

    Don't be scared of the meds. It's a tool to help you get better. They don't have to be forever. And they help. It may take a while to find the right one, but once you do, so much better. I am a better mum while I am medicated.

    Sending love and hugs xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiny Dancer View Post
    Apparently it is pretty common for PND to present with Anxiety symptoms.
    I had to go straight to meds. I left it too long (wasn't officially diagnosed til 9 months post partum though had discussed it with my GP at 4.5 months) and was having panic attacks, since I was alone with DS, with very limited support (we'd only been in the area a few months), it was important that I do everything I could to stop that ASAP.

    The most important thing that I needed to hear is something that I am going to tell you now. You are a good mum. You are more than the sum of your symptoms. Trust youself. Ignore the people who tell you you're doing it all wrong (easier said than done I know). You are the expert of your child. Don't doubt yourself. If you can't tell yourself this in your lower moments, print this off and read it every day.
    My son didn't sleep much. I had so many people telling me I just needed to do this, or this, or this. I tried it, even though I didn't think it would work, or it didn't sit well with me. It just made me more miserable. You aren't making a rod for your back and you can't spoil a baby. That said, if you're starting to lose it, bub won't suffer from being left to cry in the bassinet for a few minutes while you step out and calm down.

    I would try to get out of the house at least every second day. Sometimes every day was too hard and I found the pressure I put on myself didn't help.

    If you're having a sh**ty day, honestly, just leave the house work. It will still be there. When people come to visit, get them to do stuff like hanging/bringing in/folding washing, prepping dinner, making you a cuppa and letting you sit.

    Find someone that you can be honest with. I joined PANDSI in Canberra. They had support groups, absolutely no judgement, and gosh I love those ladies. If you can find a PND support group in your area, join it. I know it's scary and hard to put yourself out there, but every one of those women have been where you are.

    I found if I put a little effort in to getting myself ready to go out (even if I wasn't going to go out), it helped me feel more myself. I felt so lost and confused and so not myself that I found it really helped me not just feel like mum.


    See if you can find a counsellor or psych who specialises in or has a special interest in PND and anxiety. PANDA has a list of people across Australia that might be of benefit. Give them a call. They are brilliant. And practice the techniques they discuss with you when you're not in the middle of a panic attack, when your anxiety is low and manageable. That way you can employ them easier when you can't think straight.

    Don't be scared of the meds. It's a tool to help you get better. They don't have to be forever. And they help. It may take a while to find the right one, but once you do, so much better. I am a better mum while I am medicated.

    Sending love and hugs xx
    This is some of the best advice I've ever read xx

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    Thank u all so much. Saw a phsych today who got me a bed in the mother baby unit at King Edward who treat this sort of thing. So am balling my eyes out holding my little dog who is my fur child as will likely be in there a couple of weeks. Mum has Bub tonight in the next room between feeds so help is on its way. Thanks again and will keep u posted how it goes.

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    Oh honey. It's a hard road. I'm glad you've got yourself seen early on, and not left it.

    Your puppy will be ok, just think of the love you'll get when you come home.

    Be kind to yourself. And please do keep us updated. Feel free to PM me any time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yadot View Post
    This is some of the best advice I've ever read xx
    Thank you - it's what I wish I had been told. And told often, because I was so hyper-critical of myself I kept forgetting after an hour or so. It would have made so much difference.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellbell85 View Post
    I had PTSD and anxiety after my first born. My 2nd baby is now 4 months and although I still have anxiety it is much more controlled...
    A few things that I find help:
    write a list of things to accomplish each day (don't make it too long or you will beat yourself up over it!). So..maybe vac floors, do the folding, clean bathrooms.
    - have a quick shower to refresh each morning... (and I put on some tinted moisturiser/bb cream and mascara to feel nice about myself)
    -having a big drink of cold water with lemon each morning
    - essential oils! Diffusing them and roller blends (I like doterra)
    -a small glass of kombucha each day
    -taking vitamins (I do a multi vitamin and iron and fenugreek as I get anxious about milk supply)
    - get some sun every day for at least 10 mins (even just have morning coffee outside)
    - magnesium oil spray or bathe in Epsom salts/magnesium
    flakes (low magnesium linked with anxiety)
    - try and get out of house even just for a walk around the block
    - talk with someone you trust (close friend/husband)
    - try and have some 'me time' once a week. My husband takes the kids out for a couple of hours for me to have a bath and sleep or I go for a massage or to the shops or out with friends or whatever I feel like doing..
    This!


 

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