How bout going on holidays? You're tradition could be that you go away for Christmas?
A couple of years ago after my divorce I went to Thailand with a gf for Christmas and there were stacks of families there too. The atmosphere is great. It's such a buzz. You can make it as full on as you like - I wore a mrs Santa suit for the Christmas lunch. They do Christmas decor and Christmas parties etc
And there will be other kids there too.
(Doesn't necessarily have to be overseas if the budget doesn't permit but most 'holiday' places make a big deal about Christmas)
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04-11-2016 18:11 #11Senior Member
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04-11-2016 18:35 #12
It will likely be just DH, DD and I this Christmas. Family lives interstate or overseas. We don't have many friends. We can't even go on holidays, as where I work doesn't permit you to take time off in the month before and the month after Christmas (or around Easter for that matter). DD is only 2.5 though, so she won't know any better at the moment. Definitely want to start a tradition of doing some Christmas baking with her when she's older, and getting her to help decorate the tree and the house. Might also start a Christmas Eve box, with a new pair of Christmas pyjamas, a DVD or book, and some snacks or something; and she can open the box on Christmas Eve in the late afternoon or early evening, and after dinner she can put her new pyjamas on, and curl up on the couch and watch the DVD or read the book. We're also thinking for this year at least about packing up whatever we want to have for Christmas lunch, and taking it down to the local park about 5 minutes walk away, stretching out the picnic rug, and having lunch there; and then letting DD run off some of her food and energy in the playground there. We don't have much as far as income goes, but hopefully her memories will be of time spent with those who love her most, and not what she was given on the day.
04-11-2016 19:15 #13
Thanks everyone for your kind responses.
To answer a few questions. Pre bubba we did normally spend it with friends or had a mixture of being back in the UK or hosting guests. This year everyone we know is either away themselves, got family coming or getting hammered as no kids!
It's just one of those years I guess!
It's not just her I'm sad for but me a bit too. I'd like to have others to share the day with for me and my daughter and DH.
I think the suggestion of starting our own traditions is a good one. Going away last year didn't work out for many reasons and I don't want isolate ourselves even more.
I think we'll do a beach day
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04-11-2016 19:31 #14
Create your own Xmas traditions. The world is your oyster and you can do anything you want. That's what we have done. Xmas eve we do carols then Xmas lights. Xmas morning I do a big breakfast on the deck where we open presents. Then I cook a big lunch and invite friends and some family. They don't always come for lunch. Last year it was dh and I and the two kids for lunch we vegged on the couch and watched Xmas movies. Then about 15 friends came over into the evening where we had leftovers and played cricket outside. It was the BEST day! The kids loved it!
We don't have much family and Christmas was always horrible growing up so I vowed never to do that to my kids. We are creating our own fun and I love it.
04-11-2016 19:36 #15
We only have the 3 of us for Xmas. I love it and DD does as well :-) we always had Christmas as just an immediate family thing growing up and then visited relatives on Boxing Day etc so it never even crossed my mind to want to visit on Xmas day. Create some new traditions for just your family, she'll be excited if you are :-)
04-11-2016 19:41 #16Senior Member
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I'm an only child. We used to have to visit relatives at Christmas. I remember wishing I could stay home, with my parents, pets and play with the new toys. I remember parents talking to each other wishing we could stay home or spend day at the beach too! Maybe enjoy the peace and opportunity to start your own traditions whilst you can.
One thing I'd like to do when DS (also only child) is older is do some volunteering at Christmas, but I'm conscious that it's got to be genuine altruism, and not Christmas poverty porn :/ That's possibly another topic for another thread.
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04-11-2016 19:52 #18
I actually found last year quite nice just the three of us, ds1 was 22 months so a little excited about it and it gave us a chance to wake up at home with our tree and do our own traditions, not worrying about anyone else's schedule. The year before with friends was fun during lunch but annoying in the morning when we wanted to open presents for ds' first Christmas but had to wait for the hungover childless friends to wake up at 11! One thing that did help with last year being on our own was that a friend down the street was around so after we ate we went to theirs for a drink which helped break up the day a bit and feel a bit more social. Can you do that? Do your Christmas morning and lunch but then catch up with friends for a drink and desert?
This year it's just us again with ds2 added as everyone is away again, the friend we had drinks with will be in Aus. We do have a couple that we have invited over as they can't travel out of London because it's her due date so hopefully they will come. But I do think it will be a bit more exciting this year with ds1 almost being three and understanding Santa a bit more. Just try and think of the traditions from both your families that you would like to start to implement and go for it and definitely try to at least get out for a drink, maybe that could become a tradition, seeing friends after you do your little family meal?
Also from your last post is it safe to assume you're from the U.K.? I can definitely understand that besides being on your own it also feels a bit less festive when you're used to a northern hemisphere Christmas.
04-11-2016 19:54 #19
I totally understand. I'm an only child and Christmas has always been a time where I've missed having a bigger family
I actually work in the non profit sector and my organisation has a volunteering opportunity. The problem is my LO is too small to attend this time. Definitely something on my radar for when she's older!
04-11-2016 19:55 #20
I haven't read many other comments but I'd focus on developing your own family traditions so that Christmas becomes fun and exciting in your own way. When I was a kid, Christmas Eve day was always us kids baking with mum: always rum balls, mars bar slice and a triffle. Now I'm in my 30s and I still do the same with my mum!!!
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