ADVERTISEMENT

ADVERTISEMENT

+ Reply to Thread
Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12
Results 11 to 14 of 14
  1. #11
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    23,384
    Thanks
    6,431
    Thanked
    17,983
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Bubhub Blogger - Thanks100 Posts in a week
    A few things stood out in your OP. The first is that I'm confused why your mother would expect her son-in-law's sisters to invite her to their kids parties? If they were holding a party for your son or an Anniversary party for you and your DH then I would understand being upset at not being invited. But she really isn't related to them. Am I missing something?The other thing that boldly stood out to me (and I may be way off the mark) is that your mum deliberately wanted to hold the party so she could control who was invited i.e. not inviting your SIL's. It just came across she wanted to give them the big FU and this was her chance bc it would be at her place. The fact she followed up the offer of having it at her place straight away with saying no one bar DH's parents were getting an invite kind of made it quite obvious when reading it.But like I said, I may be way off
    Last edited by delirium; 01-11-2016 at 12:45.

  2. The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to delirium For This Useful Post:

    BH-KatiesMum  (01-11-2016),Cicho  (02-11-2016),LittleBug'sMum  (01-11-2016),Mama Mirabelle  (01-11-2016),Meld85  (01-11-2016),Mod-Wise Enough  (01-11-2016),smallpotatoes  (01-11-2016),TheGooch  (01-11-2016)

  3. #12
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Posts
    2,127
    Thanks
    1,571
    Thanked
    961
    Reviews
    12
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    A few things stood out in your OP. The first is that I'm confused why your mother would expect her son-in-law's sisters to invite her to their kids parties? If they were holding a party for your son or an Anniversary party for you and your DH then I would understand being upset at not being invited. But she really isn't related to them. Am I missing something?The other thing that boldly stood out to me (and I may be way off the mark) is that your mum deliberately wanted to hold the party so she could control who was invited i.e. not inviting your SIL's. It just came across she wanted to give them the big FU and this was her chance bc it would be at her place. The fact she followed up the offer of having it at her place straight away with saying no one bar DH's parents were getting an invite kind of made it quite obvious when reading it.But like I said, I may be way off
    No you are not missing anything - on occasion they have invited my mum to parties but in other occasions they have kept it small and not.

    I don't think she is being deliberately nasty, I think including the extra family members adds extra chaos and work which is a bit difficult especially on a work night. Which I completely respect but what I found to be unreasonable was when I declined her offer, stating my reasons I was accused of not supporting her and only doing what my inlaws want me to.

    Anyway to wrap up this story, my mum Calle some this evening and said she really wanted to hold the dinner at her house and if it means DH's family comes as a package then she is fine with this. I reiterated I was fine to do it at my house or the local club but she was adamant she wanted it at her house, so I guess that is what we are doing lol.

  4. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Meld85 For This Useful Post:

    BH-KatiesMum  (01-11-2016),Little Miss Sunshine  (02-11-2016),VicPark  (02-11-2016)

  5. #13
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    1,589
    Thanks
    2,042
    Thanked
    1,421
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Awards:
    Bubhub Blogger

    Default Advice please - am I being unreasonable?

    Quote Originally Posted by Meld85 View Post
    I reiterated I was fine to do it at my house or the local club but she was adamant she wanted it at her house, so I guess that is what we are doing lol.
    OP I'm glad it all worked out for you. Though something about this sentence doesn't sit right with me. I know it's none of my business but it sort of seems like you were strong armed into letting your mum host this dinner which was your idea in the first place. If that's cool with you then feel free to ignore me completely. I just feel a little sad for you..

  6. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Mama Mirabelle For This Useful Post:

    BluePixie  (04-11-2016),Cicho  (02-11-2016)

  7. #14
    BH-KatiesMum's Avatar
    BH-KatiesMum is offline Community Manager
    Winner 2008 - The most optimistic poster
    Winner 2014 - Most Helpful Moderator
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    24,250
    Thanks
    6,522
    Thanked
    7,276
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Past Moderator
    200 Posts in a week100 Posts in a week
    it can certainly be hard keeping everyone happy

    I am glad that your Mum has come around. Her choices were have it at her house and invite who you want, or for her not to get to have it ... you have it at your house.

    These things can be tricky to negotiate


 

Similar Threads

  1. which one of us is being unreasonable?
    By pointless1 in forum General Chat
    Replies: 19
    Last Post: 12-07-2016, 10:47
  2. Am I being unreasonable?
    By Naboo in forum General Chat
    Replies: 30
    Last Post: 20-03-2016, 11:12

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts

ADVERTISEMENT

ADVERTISEMENT

FEATURED SUPPORTER
Innovations Sports PhysiotherapyWomen’s Health Physios who are able to assess and treat a wide range of Pregnancy and Post Natal Issues. We offer ...
FORUMS - chatting now ...
REVIEWS
"Made bed time less anxious"
by Meld85
My Little Heart Whisbear - the Humming Bear reviews ›
"Wonderful natural Aussie made product!"
by Mrstwr
Baby U Goat Milk Moisturiser reviews ›
"Replaced good quality with cheap tight nappies"
by Kris
Coles Comfy Bots Nappies reviews ›

ADVERTISEMENT