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    Hey everyone,
    Pretty new around here & not sure who to turn to!
    I'm currently about 7 &1/2 - 8 weeks and experiencing heavy fatigue and all day nausea. My mother suffered from "morning" sickness all day everyday until about 14 weeks and at the moment it looks as though I take after her.
    The fatigue is difficult too. I only work 3-4 days a week but I have to wake up at 6:30/7am for those days. I also run a small business and foster numerous animals so I'm feeling very run down.
    The issue is that my husband is acting somewhat hurt because I cannot do as many things as before. I also have issues doing some of the jobs I used to do regularly due to the smell, especially feeding the cats & dogs as they are on the raw meat diet.
    He is acting like I do not want to spend time with him when really I just need to lay down more often and do feel like hiking/dogs to the park etc especially in the sun.
    I'm not sure what to do ...

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    The fatigue gets better. Congrats xx

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    Sorry, I have no kind words for your husband, so I'm tempted not to say anything at all...
    I wish you a healthy pregnancy

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    He needs to step up.

    It can be hard for the non pregnant person to understand how it feels (it even feels different for every pregnancy and person).

    Sit him down and tell him that you cannot do it all. And you should not do it all.

    You are growing a baby. That's your body working harder 24/7! Add to that the nausea and it is difficult to get things done.

    Do the things you have to do. Let things that are not overly important (like cleaning, complicated cooking etc) slide a bit. Also if you do not deel5up to exercising much do not push yourself as it can be harmful (especially in the sun! Overheating is not healthy).

    He needs to take over the things you are finding difficult like feeding the animals. And also letting you rest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by georgielikescats View Post
    Hey everyone,
    Pretty new around here & not sure who to turn to!
    I'm currently about 7 &1/2 - 8 weeks and experiencing heavy fatigue and all day nausea. My mother suffered from "morning" sickness all day everyday until about 14 weeks and at the moment it looks as though I take after her.
    The fatigue is difficult too. I only work 3-4 days a week but I have to wake up at 6:30/7am for those days. I also run a small business and foster numerous animals so I'm feeling very run down.
    The issue is that my husband is acting somewhat hurt because I cannot do as many things as before. I also have issues doing some of the jobs I used to do regularly due to the smell, especially feeding the cats & dogs as they are on the raw meat diet.
    He is acting like I do not want to spend time with him when really I just need to lay down more often and do feel like hiking/dogs to the park etc especially in the sun.
    I'm not sure what to do ...
    What is his relationship like with your mum? Is it possible she could speak with him about what it feels like.

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    He needs to read up on pregnancy symptoms maybe to know you aren't making it up to get out of doing things? Prepare him if u become high risk and have to not even do the washing or cooking because it's too dangerous. That will wake him up

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    The first tri is exhausting for a reason. From conception to a mere 10 weeks it becomes a baby. Obviously it needs to develop organs, it's systems etc. But your body is working extremely hard right now.

    I have to be honest I rolled my eyes at your DH, but many men get narky with pg and when the child is born bc they aren't the centre of your universe anymore.

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    No real advice as I never found a way to stop my DH acting like a spoilt brat because suddenly I wasn't able to bend over backwards to make everything happen like I always had. I was prepared for the nausea, but not the fatigue!

    I did a lot of reading as the whole "body's working hard" thing never felt believable to me, especially as I feel better and better the more pregnant I am. It turns out it is the progesterone released in the first tri to support the baby until the placenta takes over that's the culprit. For some women the side effect is debilitating fatigue.

    Hopefully the fatigue will lift around 13w once the placenta fully kicks into gear. As for how long it takes your partner to get over not being put first above all else? Can't answer that one as our 1st is nearly 9 and he still cracks the sads some days when I just want to go to bed and not sit on the couch and cuddle after a day of work, poo, spew, sleep deprivation, friendship counselling, chauffeuring, catering and the rest of it!

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    My hubby has been following the Ovia app. Every day you get updates on mum and bub. It's helped him be informed without me complaining at him.

    Would he read a book? There are a few humorous books that are great for dads.

    I've been exhausted and going to bed between 8:30/9pm every night..hubby and I watch tv together as quality time. At the moment we are watching Friends...easy 25 min episodes

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    Hi Georgielikescats and welcome to the forum.

    Has he actually said that this is the problem, or are you assuming that it is? I agree he needs to read up and man up, or he's going to be in for a huge shock in 32 weeks.

    Regarding feeding the animals, could you perhaps portion it up frozen, and then defrost it in the fridge so you can just grab it out and 'serve' rather than handle it when it's defrosted?

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