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    Hi, we told our family's, not by choice really I had emergency surgery and on e they knew what happened they knew IVF was our only option. However it's a choice only you and hubby can make. Sometimes I fell overwhelmed with all the questions they ask but at the same time it's nice to have their support

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    My parents, sister, Aunty (very close ), boss and a couple friends knew we where going through IVF for years as we had struggled to conceive naturally and with IVF. I had quite a few health issues and dp had a low count & also they went backwards not forwards. So he started taking male menevit which improved his count & they started going forward but IVF still failed for us. We did get pregnant in the end and it was natural off a failed round

    Telling people is a very personal choice and one you hope they will understand and support you through your journey

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    Quote Originally Posted by nervous86 View Post
    @mummymaybe how did your ER go??
    I had mine today. My heads still fuzzy and incision sites are sore, but other than that I'm doing OK :-) hope you are too. Xx
    Thanks for checking in @nervous86 EPU was good 17 in total and 7 are still going.

    Did you do a transabdominal pickup? That must have been painful, how many eggs did you get?

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    @mummymaybe 17 is great! and come on you 7! how many fertilised on day 1?

    I did have the laparoscopic for the right side yeah a bit sore but nothing i cant handle, and TV for the left side, so prodded and poked all over!

    The FS estimated that I would have 5-6 mature eggs because of my estrogen level. but we went ahead anyway.

    18 in total was what i was told in recovery, which i thought was great then i remembered that they wont all be mature, but i just got my call from the lab.
    16 were mature (not quite the 5 or 6 predicted) and 12 have fertilised with ICSI. so here's hoping.
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    @mummymaybe, Hi love, just wondering how you're going? did you have ET and have some frosties? how are you surviving the TWW?

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    This is my first IVF cycle and I have told family and friends, and a couple of work mates. I think its important for people to talk about infertility / IVF and not to be so hush hush. I am a little worried that if this cycle fails I'm going to be too upset to tell them, but at the same time I do want to talk about it rather than keeping it bottled up. It makes me feel better to know that people care. And it stops the "Hurry up and have a baby!" remarks!

    To be honest, I get a little upset if someone knows about it and doesn't ask me how I'm going. The other day I was at a party and there were 3 pregnancy announcements, so everyone was sitting there talking about their pregnancies and children, everyone knew I was doing IVF but not one person asked how I was going. I found it pretty rude considering I had to sit there listening to their baby talk most of the night! I don't know if it's because they don't care, or if they just don't want to upset me. (These aren't just random people either, one of them is my sister in law). Everyone is different though, I think it's up to you if you want to tell people or not.

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    As @amywillo86 said, I think its super important to talk about all this stuff. It's nothing to be ashamed of; heaps of people go through it these days. When we started IVF we had no clue what to do because nobody ever talked about it! We had at least 1 couple we knew had done it but weren't open about it so we never felt able to ask questions. So, since we went through it, I will now talk to ANYONE who has questions because if I can save someone else fumbling their way through it then I think it's worth any self consciousness on my part.

    Having said that, in the beginning it can be tricky as people knowing can create pressure. But, on the other hand, it's wonderful to be able to vent to people you love (plus taking the pressure of being sole confidant off your partner) if things go wrong. Everyone at work knew with me off the bat as I couldn't be bothered lying to get time off for appointments and it was too hard to hide emotion if I got a BFN. My family knew I was doing IVF but I eventually made it clear that I wouldn't tell them when as I didn't want constant status checks when I was cycling. It's all personal choice and, if you decide to tell people, just make some ground rules when you do; eg don't ask when I'm cycling, don't ask if it's worked yet, feel free to ask questions about the process, etc.

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    My husband and his ex-wife didn't tell anyone until after they had conceived.
    It is such a personal thing (as is choosing to TTC at all) and they didn't want to be questioned about it.
    After they conceived, people asked when they started trying and they were honest- 3 years before with the last 6 months being IVF and lucky to fall first/second time (I am actually not sure on that part as H says second and ex says first).

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    Hi eberyone
    I am new to this forum and read all the stories and feel very good as yesterday i had an appointment where doc said i have to go for ivf. I have low ovarian reserve and high fsh levels for which she suggested clomid. Has anyone used this drug? Is it effective? And also the process of ivf scares me. What is it? Is it painful? And which ivfclinic would u guys recommend in Melbourne?

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    We had agreed to not tell anyone, however, my husband ended up telling family and a few friends. I haven't told anyone cos I didn't want the questions/pressure but now I feel like I have to tell them. Still fuming he told so many people despite us agreeding not to. 😧
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