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    Default Please tell me I'm not the only one who feels this way!

    So after 5 years of trying, I feel like getting pregnant is never going to happen for me. I haven't tried ivf yet but feel like I'll waste my money because I can't imagine ever getting that positive test. Also how do you deal with other people's pregnancies? When a pregnancy is announced I have to excuse myself and go cry. How ridiculous is that! I'm the type of person that never cries, except with this i just struggle with it so much. Anyone else feel like it would never happen and it did. Please I need some hope.

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    Hi Rubywoo13, my husband and tried for 2.5 years naturally. We feel once and miscarried at 6 but even my FD doesn't know how I got pregnant naturally. You should see a FD and see why you aren't falling. Yes it's very expensive but if there's a chance at getting pregnant it's money well spent. We are now 6 weeks pregnant and this would not have happened without the help of IVF.

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    Also you aren't ridiculous for feeling they way you do. I know exactly how you feel. It's not easy watching and seeing pregnancy people around you, especially considering how hard it can be

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    @RubyWoo13 I could have written your post word for word every single day for the last 9 years. I have seen friends have their 3rd child while I was still waiting for my first. I've been invited to countless any showers and had to make up an excuse to get out of them. I've had work colleges announce their/their partners pregnancies and I've had to say "congratulations! Excuse me I need to go to the bathroom" and then sit in the toilet for the next 10 mins, not because I'm sad, but because I'm so happy for them but I don't want it to look like I'm crying for me (if that makes sense??)
    Hell I've even deleted people off Facebook just because they announced they were pregnant.
    Last week, as soon as I started cramping and feeling like my period was coming, I called my husband crying and said "I can't cope with this anymore, I can't keep putting myself through this, I'm 32 next week, we have been doing this for 9 years, we have spent $40k+ on fertility treatment and I can't do it anymore" and that was that...... just like that we decided that was the end for us and our dream of being parents.
    3 days later I got a BFP - miracles DO happen so please hang in there!!!!!!!!

    Please at least speak to a fertility specialist, it may be hat you need help with timed intercourse, or something as simple as clomid to ensure you ovulate regularly, I know it all seems daunting, it u less there is something seriously wrong, you aren't going to go straight to IVF, and you aren't going to know what is wrong until you see a specialist!!

    Chin up xxxxxx babies will come your way

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    Ps: I'm so sorry for the long post..... I think I used you as a counselling session

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    No thats fine! thank you so much for your replies. I have been through all the tests including dye through my tubes and laproscopy but everything has come back clear, our reason for IVF is due to male infertility. i also tried with a previous partner for 4 years but he did say that due to an operation he had when he was younger he couldn't have kids, i do worry tho that maybe i have unexplained fertility, its 9 years of trying and i just feel I'm not supposed to have children even though I've dreamt of it since a little girl. Were having our first appointment for ivf next month and i'm worried of spending that money to only break my heart even more.


 

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