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    Default Just found out I need IVF - any advice or tips?

    Hi Ladies,

    After doing an assessment cycle, I have found out that due to a few factors, my best option is IVF.

    It's a tough pill to swallow, I knew we had issues but I didn't think it would come to this, well I hoped it wouldn't. I am devastated & heartbroken.

    Just wondering for any advice on how you handled it, things you wish you did or didn't do, who you told or kept it a secret from, how your husband dealt with it? I know my DH cares, but I feel like it has affected me more, I feel scared and he seems to just accept it. Also anything to be aware of when we do start IVF.
    Basically any knowledge you have I would love to hear.
    thanks x

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    Hi monkey88,
    Firstly im sorry you have to go through the ivf journey. Unfortunately its not a pleasant journey to go through. It can be emotionally, physically, mentally and financially draining. But the good side about it all is once you get to hold your baby in your arms i can promise you it will make every part of ivf worthwhile.
    My advice to both you and your husband is to be patient and understanding of each other. For the female its harder more physically as you will be copping the needles pains and aches that come with it. If you cant inject yourself get hubby to do it. I know for me that was the hardest part as i couldnt bare to even look at needles.
    For the male its hard mentally as they see what your going through but cant do anything to help you.
    Also everyones ivf path can be different what works for someone else may not work for you. They told me my first cycle can be classed as more of a trial and error because after your first cycle they will know if they need to increase your meds or tweek your protocol. So dont lose hope if it doesnt happen the first time. It may take a few cycles to get it right.
    I think the first cycle is probably the hardest as you dont know what to expect and with the influx of info provided to you.
    But if at anytime your not sure you will have your FS and nurse to assist you along the way.
    All in all it is a tolerable process knowing the gift you get in the end.
    Wishing you the best of luck on your ivf journey hopefully will work for you on your first cycle.
    If you have any further questions feel free to pm me ☺

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    Everything @babylove10 has said. But if you are going to start I would wait until January only because your Medicare safety net resets on the 1st and let's say "if" you need more then 1 round in a calendar year the cycles get cheaper as they go on. There is also a cut off point before Xmas as a lot of clinics shut down to clean labs etc

    We went through years of IVF and have a little DS now who is 14wks. He was natural off a stim fet cycle. We had also had test results withheld that required myself to have surgery to fix my issues and seems it worked as within 5months DS was conceived. I had stage 3 endo & a fibroid tumour removed turns out I probably never needed IVF but we only went down that path as the FS told a lot of lies

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    How old are you OP? That makes a big difference to your IVF journey.

    My tips:
    - don't think you will get pregnant first go. So many people think that and it makes the fall harder. Even things like working out the child's birthday and thinking ahead like that all build you up, possibly leading to more hurt.

    - first appointments are confusing but forums are you friend . You get easier at understanding everything the more cycles you do.

    - even if you have a heap of eggs harvested that doesn't mean a heap of embryos. For me I had 15 eggs harvested (a good result), 12 fertalised, at day 3 i had 9 still growing, but there was only 1 baby in that lot. Most embryos die off at day 4- be prepared

    - don't tell work. You might think you can trust them but you can't. Clinics open early so hopefully you can have scans and bloods done before work.

    - ultrasounds are done internally. You get used to it.

    - don't stress about what you eat or drink while stimming. I found the worse my diet the better my result!

    - treat the first cycle as a practice run so they can work out how you respond.

    Look IVF isn't that bad... it's repeated IVF that wears you down.

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    Default IVF a good start is to make appointment and do tests

    Quote Originally Posted by monkey88 View Post
    Hi Ladies,

    After doing an assessment cycle, I have found out that due to a few factors, my best option is IVF.

    It's a tough pill to swallow, I knew we had issues but I didn't think it would come to this, well I hoped it wouldn't. I am devastated & heartbroken.

    Just wondering for any advice on how you handled it, things you wish you did or didn't do, who you told or kept it a secret from, how your husband dealt with it? I know my DH cares, but I feel like it has affected me more, I feel scared and he seems to just accept it. Also anything to be aware of when we do start IVF.
    Basically any knowledge you have I would love to hear.
    thanks x
    Hi Monkey,
    How old are you?

    The first thing I would do is make an appointment. I have done 2 cycles one 5 years ago and it took 7 months..appointment at March...tests can take months. ..by the time you and partner decide to eat healthy ..maybe go on holiday it's 6 or 7 months. I went to Genea first time. They were wonderful and have a 5 year old but it was expensive. Lots of tests done. I was 37. This year 42 we went to primary ivf first appointment in March...by the time we did our tests again it was 7 months just did first cycle and pregnant again. So it can work first time. On a positive people can try naturally for years but it can happen a lot quicker with IVF. We had a good experience with both ..Primary ivf much cheaper and I thought were also wonderful. We both ate well and prepared for better quality egg and sperm..that was our mission.

    My advice don't tell everyone ..just best friend or parents...everyone has a different opinion and I found their thoughts put me down.

    Best to start the process as it can take months for tests to first cycle.

    Hope this helps any questions just ask.

    Alot of people have trouble conceiving just get on to it..and don't waist time trying to do it naturally ..that is my advice. X

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    Call me strange but i was actually excited to begin my ivf journey....for me it was just the next step to hopefully get that much wanted baby/babies. I felt positive and was proactive throughout the process. I had an amazing fs so my advice is to find someone you trust and feel is making the process as stress free as possible. I would only tell a few people as i would imagine it would be a pain to be constantly asked by others if you were pregnant yet. Also make sure you keep a healthy balance with your lifestyle as ivf can becoming consuming so important to do other non ivf stuff eg...holiday, out with friends...all things that you enjoy doing. Good luck

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    My experience is don't go to Westmead feet centre, don't go to fertility first in Hurstville.

    Do be prepared for waiting months cause you will need scans and blood tests.

    Do ask to be knocked out if having HSG test. Hysterosalopingal test. My local didn't knock me out it hurt like hell 10/10 worse than child birth. When I told that to my IVF clinic they were shocked cause the knock you out for that Proceedure if done at their clinic.

    Be prepared to drop your dacks a lot! Dildo cam.

    Start taking pre conception vitamins like blackmores now whilst your waiting.

    Be prepared to be tested for hiv hep b and c etc.

    If you need donor gametes ie. sperm or egg be prepared for a wait. Egg donor you need to find usually, and sperm donor there is a waiting list. Yes you have to pay to be on the wait list. Crazy.

    Not all clinics deal with all aspects of IVF for example if you need sperm or egg donor I'm pretty sure genea doesn't do it.

    Willlpost more later my little one is getting up. So yes it can work! But sometimes it doesn't. It didn't for a friend of mine.

    Mysticfalls

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    Find the best dr, get on to their waitlist which is often super long. Be prepared to wait... So much waiting. The best is what anyone deserves going through IVF, I had very mediocre to start and just trusted them... I was very wrong.

    Get blood tests done in time for your initial consult, this should hopefully speed things along. They test for so much, perhaps the clinic will give you a list of tests you could get done.

    Get your partner to start menevit and try lead healthy life to get his swimmers in tip top shape. There could be nothing wrong with them but if there is, it takes about 3 months of vitamins and healthy living to see if they improve.

    Only tell who you feel comfortable sharing good and sometimes very bad news. It's a huge roller coaster of emotions.

    Be prepared to lose all dignity. Your vjj will be on display more than ever, some procedures will be so painful and others won't.

    A very good luck xx

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    Agree with all of the above. Definitely don't waste time at FS that aren't the best. And most definitely start making your appointments now, they will probably be next year.

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    I did 6 stim cycles at 2 different clinics.
    My advice is:
    If you have multiple issues see the best fertility specialist you can. Some fs will go straight into cycles without testing or resolving known issues. Don't waste your money. Get things sorted first then try IVF.
    Secondly everyone is different. One person's experience is not necessarily going to be anything like yours. Someone once told me the most evil words in the english language were compare and contrast. That's true in IVF. Don't feel bad that you didn't get 20 eggs on the first round or feel down because you think you'll get none like someone else. What your experience is will be different to others. It's not better or worse it's just different.
    Look after you. Like some of the other ladies have said it's tough physically, emotionally and even spiritually ( I had a lot of arguments with God, fate or whatever you like to call it). Be kind to yourself. Give yourself a treat, a pat on the back or whatever it takes to get yourself through it health and sanity intact.
    Lastly have a plan B. Ask what will I do if this doesn't work? Are you prepared for multiple cycles, donor egg/ sperm, surrogacy or adoption? Plan your next move then if your first cycle doesn't work you'll have something positive to move towards instead or coming to brick wall.

    Goodluck. I have a friend who got pg on her first attempt. Everything is possible.

    Ps I didn't tell anyone about IVF as I didn't want the pressure of people asking me how it went. It's a personal decision though.

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