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    Do you get on with her? 90% of the time

    What's your relationship like? Are you close or distant? Close but I find her frustrating now. She is elderly so she has less patience and reasoning. I'd like to thinking respectful of that fact but she makes it hard sometimes. Old age is cruel

    What was it like when you were a kid? The best. Hands down. To this day she lives for her kids.

    Do you want your kids to have a similar relationship with you when they're adults? Yes yes yes

    I love her very much and don't I so what I'll do without her when she's not here.

    Does your relationship with her affect the way you parent your own children? Yes, but with some modernising.

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    Yes I get along with my mum. We aren't best friends but I am comfortable around her.

    We are reasonably close in that whilst we don't talk often as we live interstate from each other I know she is there for me and I'm there for her. In the past 11 months she has visited me six times interstate.

    Mum was amazing. Always there for us emotionally. She loved us and we knew it. Yes she was strict and over protective but all was in our best interest. She honestly tried to be the best parent she could. I had a loving and happy home.

    I do try to be understanding. Mum tho was treated as a doormat by some people and I don't want to be like her that way. I have a more forceful personality than my mum and am not naturally empathetic. I'm more black&white whilst mum is shades of grey. Mum has fallen prey to Nigerian scams.... too naive.

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    Default Tell me about your Mum

    Do you get on with her?

    I pretend to, if that makes sense. Taking DD out of the equation, no, I'd rather have nothing to do with her, but she's a good grandmother and looks after DD a bit.

    What's your relationship like?

    Pretending to get along for the sake of DD. Me ignoring her s*** the best I can until one of us snaps, either because I'm sick of being so highly scrutinised and criticised, or she can't handle the fact that I refuse to get caught up in the drama she so constantly tries to stir up.

    What was it like when you were a kid?

    Up until she cheated on my dad when I was 6, it was fine. After that she took all her guilt & unhappiness out on me. She treated me like a burden and a hassle - a symbol of everything she'd screwed up in life. My mental health suffered massively which she would get angry at me about - how dare I cause her any more grief in her life! Didn't I know what she was going through?! She was highly emotional at all times and as she didn't have a man in her life or any adult friends she would come to me with all her issues.

    Do you want your kids to have a similar relationship with you when they're adults?

    That goes without saying - no!

    Does your relationship with her affect the way you parent your own children?

    Every day. I actually want to be a mother to my daughter, a good one. I want to trust her, guide her, let her grow and learn for herself, not try and instill fear and narrow mindedness or manipulate her in order to feel better about myself.

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    Do you get on with her?

    Yes



    What's your relationship like? Are you close or distant?

    We are very close. She lives 90 minutes away but we text every day or two and speak on the phone at least once a week. When she comes to visit it's awesome.


    What was it like when you were a kid?

    My mum was amazing. My Dad worked long hours and was basically an emotionally unavailable person (despite being a kind person). My older adopted siblings were very rebellious and mum basically handled it all herself, whilst still managing to parent me patiently through the process. Mum is a favourite with my and my siblings childhood friends. When my Dad died 5 years ago, so many of my siblings' friends from teenage years (many of whom my siblings had lost contact with over the years) turned up at the funeral so they could give mum their condolences. She's a special lady.

    Do you want your kids to have a similar relationship with you when they're adults?

    Absolutely


    Does your relationship with her affect the way you parent your own children?

    It affects me positively. Mum is much calmer than me so I try to channel her zen when I'm feeling frazzled. When she visits she backs DH and I up 100% with our parenting which I am very grateful for.

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