I think a wash out for school holidays yes but nothing else for that age
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27-09-2016 10:58 #51
27-09-2016 11:10 #52
Generally though she is a great kid. But hey teenagers will be teenagers.
27-09-2016 11:42 #53
My dd1 is nearly 12 and l'm dreading puberty but going to try and be reasonably fair with my girls. I've already told them l'm taking them to get their eyebrows done just before they start high school, maybe when they hit 13 or 14 a bit later on. No way am l letting them go through high school with a monobrow like l did. My mum didn't prepare me for puberty so l'm going to play it different. I love when l go to the hairdressers, when my girls are 13, l think a couple of foils would be fine. I will go with them.
27-09-2016 11:44 #54Senior Member
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27-09-2016 11:48 #55
I personally would let her do it. I know we'll face these things with our DD and I hope I can keep my mind open and remember how my Mum handled these things. Mum didn't sweat about stuff like hair dye. I probably dyed mine at 14 (packet job). It didn't look that great but that was my problem. My older siblings were very rebellious so I think Mum learnt perspective pretty early on. I appreciated her letting me have autonomy with my hair and not fussing about when I started shaving my legs etc etc. When I was 16 I took myself to the salon and got second earring holes pierced. She didn't even blink, and I was still a good kid!
Now that I'm a parent I see the value in compromise with things like this. The school our kids go to is strict with hair colour but so they will be restricted by that but within the guidelines...sure thing.
27-09-2016 13:02 #56
I think I would let my daughter at 13
(she's 5 so I can't answer that as a matter of fact, but I think I would!)
27-09-2016 13:15 #57
I started dying my hair at 13, but that was because my older sister had just started her hairdressing apprenticeship then and she needed a model. I'm not sure if I'd have been allowed to at that age if that weren't the case, but my parents didn't seem to have a problem with it.
OP I would probably let her get a couple of foils. I can't say for sure because I'm about 10 years away from this situation, but I'd like to think that if I went with her and it would boost her self esteem, I'd go ahead and do it. I'd rather that than have her do a supermarket dye job with her friends!
27-09-2016 19:53 #58
I wish my mum put her foot down and didn't let me colour my beautiful Scandinavian blonde hair at 13 it went mousy brown
27-09-2016 20:27 #59
I would let her - but only if she could pay for it herself. In regards to body autonomy - I read some unschooling pages on facebook where there was an obese child with her teeth rotting and falling from her mouth. He parents allowed her to make her own decisions about what she ate every day (chocolate, chips and coke for dinner) & didnt make her brush her teeth (her body, her choice). Their dilemma was what to do with her rotting teeth because the child didnt want to go to the dentist (her body, her choice). The point of this story is that someimes children dont have the maturity to understand the long term consequences of their decisions. That's why we parents are responsible for making choices for them. That being said, I would encourage hair dye that causes less damage to the hair, as PP suggested - & I would think it would be ok.
27-09-2016 20:41 #60
It broke my heart to see how upset she was with herself about this. Yes she learned a lesson but honestly she's 11 and she'll probably make the same mistakes several times yet before it really changes.
So in the meantime I'm going to support and guide her along
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