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    Default Child care rang future school and lied about it.

    Today i found our through a family member who is a kindergarten teacher at my sons future school for 2017 that one of the preschool teachers rang the school and gave a 'big warning' that he is not ready to start school next year. He turns 5 years old just 2 weeks after school starts.

    I was so mad and so was my husband because this is was so unexpected. I was meant to get a mid year report check list from them but it never came and i reminded them last week and they said they forgot and I got it today dated 7/7.

    When i got the report card I asked the room leader if they are going to call his future school and talk to the about my son. She said no, they have nothing to do with the school. She seems very honest and genuine.

    Meanwhile, the admin lady who also helps out in my sons room has been starting little conversation with me about how she held her son back and it was the best thing she ever did and he thanked her for it because it meant he got his license first and was the oldest and most popular (sounds like a dumb way to sell it)

    I believe she took it upon herself to call his school. Meanwhile she has asked me when his orientation is and so much small talk about school which really is none of her concern.

    What should I do, they keep telling me how amazing my son is and also that no one calls schools yes someone has and they are lieing to me.

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    I would email both the preschool and school in the one email and say you've heard 2nd hand that a call was made from the preschool to the school about your sons readiness for kindy. Ask if someone can let you know what was discussed - you would like to hear first hand as you don't want to get your wires crossed through second hand information.

    Be nice, non blaming. Then when someone coughs up what happened tip 'em a new one.

    The preschool sounds very unprofessional. That aside, do you think their recommendation, that your child isn't ready for kindy, is accurate?

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    That's a breach of privacy! In qld we write transition statements for the school however it's up to parents whether they pass it on or not. We cannot talk to the school about a child without family permission.

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    Gee thats not good! Preschool teachers should be open and honest about their observations of your child.
    In saying that I am a preschool teacher and we judge a child's school readiness based on the individual child. These conversations, observations and reports start in February.
    Alot of my January boys are not ready for school next year and are being kept back which is the parents choice. I think its better to have an open mind about this as an extra year really does make a huge difference.
    also if your child is immature what is the opinion of the school, do they prefer to take children anyway and how will they teach these children.

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    I know my DDs kinder is talking to the school about her. Not sure who is contacting who. But definitely poor form if it wasn't discussed with you first

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    I would ask the woman you suspect called the school upfront if she did in fact call the school. Not in an aggressive or confrontational way, just to see how she reacts/responds.

    I would be fuming that someone took it upon themselves to make that call without expressing their concern to you first. How unprofessional.

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    That's so unprofessional. We prepare transition to school statements as well and sometimes references for schools who request it. In saying that all communication goes through the family, we have nothing to do with the school directly.

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    I would speak to the room leader and explain that you have a contact at the school who has told you that the school was specifically contacted regarding your sons school readiness and that you would like to know who it was and what was discussed.

    Im sure the room leader would like to know whats going on if she wasnt aware if it.


 

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