DD didn't have much hair when she was young and was often mistaken for a boy up to about 18 months old. Only time it bothered me was if she was in e.g. pink tutu and people said 'what's his name' etc. Come on! It was generally only people without English as a first language or older people who said 'he'.
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20-09-2016 16:51 #11
20-09-2016 17:20 #12
We've had it a few times with DS. He has a curly head of hair, and a very cheeky grin. It's normally in the form of "Oh isn't she gorgeous, how old is she?" I'd just answer the question, with out emphasising "He's 22 months (or whatever he was at the time)."
It doesn't bother me in the slightest. We don't have a gender neutral pronoun in English, unless they say "they" or "it" people have to choose one. Not so long ago it was unacceptable to use "they" unless talking about a group, and people tend to get upset when you call their child/ren "it". 😂😂😂
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20-09-2016 17:28 #13
My kids have never been mistaken but I know someone that chose long hair for their son who has quite feminine features and would get annoyed. The first time I saw him, I really did think he was a girl. But then I actually believe she deliberately dressed him and had his hair in what society deems feminine, in order to be edgy and controversial (she has a lot of issues).
Some people are just weird.
20-09-2016 17:29 #14
when my ds started daycare an educator called him she a couple of times. his name ends in an a and he was wearing a bonds zippy that had some pink in it. I corrected her twice and it hasn't happened again. he's 6 months old.
20-09-2016 17:30 #15
It does bother me a little though I know it shouldn't. My ds has long hair and even though most of his clothes are sterotypically boyish people still sometimes call him a girl. I don't go out of my way to correct them. Sometimes I worry it might confuse him as he's only 2.5.
20-09-2016 17:34 #16Senior Member
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DD gets it. Probably because her name is unisex/more masculine and we don't always dress her in pink.
I don't mind as it is an honest mistake. But I do always correct them with 'her' or 'she'
My whole life growing up people would mispronounce my name and I would always let it slide and it work irk me that I was 'too polite' to correct them!
Since having a child I feel like my filter has eased a bit!! So I'm a lot quicker to correct people (on both accounts!)
20-09-2016 18:20 #17
My eldest DD is often called he, she is 3 in December and picks her own clothes most of which are quite neutral also she has thick ringlets all over her head which are very slow growing. I think it important to not make a deal of genders and idealise what is for boys or girls and with her clothes I love she is establishing her own identity and hope it installs confidence so if it doesn't bother her it doesn't bother me such a minor detail imo.
20-09-2016 18:23 #18
Do people get your child's s.ex wrong? Do you care? Do you correct them?
Hasn't happened with DS2 but DS1 used to have long curly hair until about 2.5yrs old and even though he was dressed very "boyish" (shorts, pants, shirt), I did sometimes get people commenting on what a pretty girl he was. I can't remember if I ever bothered correcting but it wouldn't bother me..
Ds1 before his hair cut.. The curls never grew back
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20-09-2016 18:51 #19
My eldest gets mistaken for a boy. She is almost 2 and barely has any hair. She dresses fairly girly. It's generally Asian people that get it wrong. They ask "How old is he?". Doesn't bother me too much. I do reply with "SHE'S" blah blah
20-09-2016 19:05 #20
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