I have an almost 2 1/2 year old who has been toilet training for the past 2 weeks. He has being doing amazing during the day but I haven't wanted to do night training as he loves his bottle milk at night (I know it's bad but it's such a comfort for him and it's actually more water than milk) and never wakes up dry. So we have been putting a nappy on at night. Except that for the past 3 nights he has been waking up screaming needing to wee, he won't wee in the nappy at night anymore. I don't mind getting up a couple of times a night to help with the toilet but this happens nearly hourly and then he asks for more milk to go back to sleep . I don't give him the milk if I can help it but sometimes I can't get him back to sleep.
I know I need to stop the fluid a couple of hours before bed but how do I cut out the bottles at night? We have tried avoiding the topic of milk before bed and saying no but he wasn't asleep 2 hours after his bedtime as he was so upset he couldn't have his milk. We ended up giving in and hoping he would just wee in his nappy, but nope. I have no idea what to do now.....any tips?
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14-09-2016 08:58 #1
Help! Toileting at night
14-09-2016 09:20 #2Senior Member
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We had one who needed milk to sleep and the sleep specialist we had come in said to stop cold turkey, and throw out the bottles. It's painful for a few nights but was the only thing we could do! Meant lots of cuddles at night for a week or so (but we were doing that anyway) but it worked and she forgot about milk pretty quickly.
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14-09-2016 09:26 #3
Thanks I was thinking the next step was to be really harsh and cut him off and not give in. I just hate messing with his sleep, he has slept 12 hours a night since he was a few months old but has always had the bottle beforehand. I guess I'm in for an unsettled week or so
14-09-2016 09:58 #4
To be honest I wouldn't bother with night training just yet. My eldest was trained at 3 but not night trained until 4.5. I just waited until he had a run of dry nappies in the morning then tried him without a nappy overnight. My second child was fully trained by 2 yrs 2 months and night trained by 2 yrs 7 months. I didn't do anything differently with DS2 he just got there quicker. DS3 has just turned 2 and we have done a bit of training but not pushing it. You really are best to be led by them and wait until they're ready.
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14-09-2016 10:06 #5
I just followed my daughters lead I will do same with DS. She asked not to wear knickers and wakes up dry during naps now same at night she's 3.5 and wakes me goto toilet
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14-09-2016 11:13 #6
I would go cold turkey with the milk if I was in this situation. I would suggest not bothering with toilet training overnight but as he himself doesn't want to wee in the nappy, that's actually a great sign! My almost 5yr old boy still won't wake at night to wee! Which means frequent accidents if he's drank too much before bed.
Is it possible for your son to go to the toilet himself at night or is he a bit too young for that?
14-09-2016 11:23 #7
Thanks everyone, the problem is that he doesn't want to wee in a nappy at night, I was happy not to night train but he is refusing to wee in his nappy now and is waking up crying for the toilet, he is still new to weeing on the toilet and needs help still. He is constantly asking for milk before bed and when he wakes up during the night now after a wee. He gets really upset if we don't give it to him and it takes hours to get him back to sleep. I think I'll have to go cold turkey with his milk!!
14-09-2016 11:27 #8
I wish he would just wee in the nappy at night to be honest but it doesn't look like he will anymore!
What do you do with you 5 year old regarding drinks before bed? Do you stop at dinner time? Or do you let him drink if he wants and just deal with the accidents?
14-09-2016 11:32 #9Senior Member
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Why not just tell him the milk makes him need to wee, so he either wears a nappy to bed, or he has no milk. He's 2.5...the milk will go, but I'd rather my child had a settled night sleep than getting up continually.
Also, please don't deny him fluids (water) before bed. It doesn't work and is not beneficial at all...especially coming in to warmer months.
My youngest drinks a full drink bottle of water overnight and never wets the bed...the research and evidence all state not to deny your child water before bed and through the night.
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14-09-2016 11:55 #10
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