Just a bit more info - The kid in the pram is my child. She has SPD, & doesnt cope well in situations with too many other kids around her. She had been in the sandpit when we first arrived, but other kids kept taking her bucket and shovel (they weren't snatching it, just she kept turning away and expecting it would be there when she turned back). She was having massive meltdowns all over the place, she just wasnt coping at all. She had a therapy session the day before, which is physically and mentally taxing for her (in hindsight, I shouldnt have taken her out - in future, I'll try to stay home with her the day after therapy).
After screaming and losing the plot numerous times over the course of about 45 mins, she sat in the pram and asked for my phone, and I obliged. She was happy and comfortable, instead of screaming and crying. I could have just gone home instead, but I had driven 45 mins to meet a friend there for the morning, & my 1yo was having a great time playing, so I didnt feel it was fair on the 1yo to leave early. Nor was it fair on my friend who we were meeting. I was able to have a chat to my friend, my 1yo could play & the 3yo was content.
It did cross my mind - 'I wonder if other parents are judging me for letting my kid play on a phone instead of enjoying the playground' - which is why I asked on here. Sometimes I get "looks", lol. I'm really glad to see that generally, people wouldnt feel judgemental. It's actually really heartening to see these replies. It makes me really glad to know so many parents 'get it'. I know it doesnt matter either way - I do what my child needs, and will always put her needs above the judgement of others - but was curious as to if other parents would judge me.
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09-09-2016 12:21 #11
09-09-2016 12:38 #12
Cheeeesecake I'm hearing you. My youngest child is meltdown central these days and it wears me down. She's also a tornado so it's draining.
I think it's 100% in your favour. Sounds like everyone was happy
09-09-2016 12:42 #13
I don't think I would even notice, unless my DS was up bothering the child in the pram!
If I did notice, I may be a little jealous that mum could manage to chat to a friend for longer than 3 seconds in a row! I also figure that sometimes kids just need time out, or a just tired, or not feeling well, or any number of things.
It worked. Everyone was happy. Sounds like a good morning to me!
09-09-2016 12:51 #14Senior Member
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I have been the receiver of looks and I never look that way at anyone (although I tend to have resting b!tch face).
09-09-2016 12:56 #15
09-09-2016 12:57 #16
I wouldn't even think twice, just figure she's happy there. My kid is the 3 year old tornado at the park who gets plenty of disapproving looks so I would probably secretly be jealous of a child sitting quietly
09-09-2016 13:05 #17
I wouldn't notice as I have to keep my eyes firmly on my DS (he has ASD and can be unpredictable/run off).
Having a child with special needs myself, I'm the last person to make negative assumptions about that sort of thing!
09-09-2016 13:06 #18
Who cares really? To be honest, l don't think people would look twice. My girls don't have any disorders and when they were little l'd take them to a playcentre and they'd hang around. I would be like, go and play please lol.
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09-09-2016 13:14 #19
nothing. what business is it of mine what they're doing?
09-09-2016 13:49 #20Senior Member
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Ok honestly... Before children when I had NO clue and thought that when I had children, they would be super perfect and would never do anything remotely questionable because clearly I knew better (pfft) I would notice... then I had children. I wouldn't think twice now. Do what you need to do sister, no judgement in the slightest. X
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