Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
No, I agree. Men have a right to bodily autonomy just as we do. But the clincher for me is that he 100% doesn't want more kids and wants something permanent done, he just doesn't want to be the one to do it. Had the OP been the one 100% not wanting more while he possibly did and she was pressuring him, I would be on the husband's side.
If the OP fell pregnant and he was placing all blame on her, sure... I would think he's an *******.
Whatever decision he makes, he has to own it.

Fwiw, I wouldn't even contemplate a tubal and I do think a vasectomy is the best option. I just think we both deserve the right to make that decision for our own bodies and have to take accountability for the possibility of an unplanned pregnancy.