If I was the OP, it wouldn't so much be that he was refusing the vas, although I admit I'd be annoyed considering the difference between the two procedures and the fact I had carried and birthed our kids. It would be the refusal to pin down *why* he wouldn't (which I think the OP deserves) and the fact he is pulling all the strings i.e. refuses to get a 10 min procedure, knowing the OP's issues but is also controlling firmly not wanting more kids. It all just smacks of immaturity and control issues to me.
When I was pg with number 3 and we decided he was our last, my DH said, "well you've carried 3 of my children with 3 c/s. You've had ops to get pregnant, you've been through enough. I'll deal with it." And off he went and had it done. He whined he was sore (you know men lol) but he never once went on about the decision or losing his mojo.
I'm with VP on this one
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08-09-2016 08:56 #31
08-09-2016 09:08 #32
Look, I get it. I've exhausted every contraception that I'm willing to try and our only options are condoms and cycle tracking or vasectomy/tubal.
I don't think women should hold sole responsibility and a vasectomy is, by far, a better option than tubal. But I just can't stand by the notion that men are selfish for not wanting to go through with it and I would feel terrible if my dh felt pressured in to it.
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08-09-2016 09:21 #35
Dh decided to have a vasectomy for reasons beyond just decreasing our chances of having a whoopsie. I was happy that it was eliminating the stress of contraception and he even got the go ahead for other reasons, despite our age and that we only have 2 children, including a newborn at the time.
He then started freaking out a bit because he is so young and majority of our friends are still years away from starting families, while he's about to close that chapter. While it seems kind of silly, especially because of our main reason, I'll just ride it out until he is definitely ready.
08-09-2016 09:23 #36Senior Member
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I wonder if when/if the option of a male contraceptive pill (is it actually available yet???) is made readily available if males will take that option if not willing to have a vasectomy. Or will that also rid them of mojo? What about our damn mojo!?!?!
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