When i was at the breast specialist she referred me to a geneticist so waiting for a call to have an appointment there.
Unfortunately my mum is against having genetic testing which is not all that helpful for my own testing from what i gather - i guess ill find out more once i see the geneticist.
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07-09-2016 09:09 #11
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07-09-2016 09:14 #12
Im so lucky i felt an itch and realised it had come loose or we would likely have had a whoopsie baby.
This is why i dont think i could do another IUD cause id be paranoid the whole time that it would come out.
Probably unlikely to happen twice to one person but i know it would be constantly on my mind
07-09-2016 09:16 #13
07-09-2016 09:18 #14
For those asking DH's reasons unfortunately thats a hard question to answer because he doesnt really have a reason that makes any sense.
We've been talking about it as an option since i was preg with DS 4yrs ago and he is yet to agree.
I know him not having a valid 'reason' is completely ridiculous, immature and dammed annoying.
07-09-2016 09:30 #15Member
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I would be buying the roughest, thickest, driest condoms and some lube and be telling dh that if he isn't getting the snip then you are choosing the contraception. There are minimal risks to him but reasonable risks to you if you get your tubes tied. Not fair especially when you have spent a few years carrying babies
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07-09-2016 09:30 #16
If he's scared about the procedure and after effects, I'd suggest for him to book an appointment just to discuss it all and make it clear that there's no pressure, but it's something that you do want him to consider because of x, y, z. If he feels like it's solely his decision, maybe he will be more open to it.
07-09-2016 09:42 #17
I was quite settled in my decision until it became so much more 'real' by seeing the gyn and throwing around dates as options.
I have some unexplained bleeding so need to have an exploratory op to see whats going on in there so getting tubes tied at same time seemed reasonable.....
I think it might be the finality of it all thats giving me jitters and uncertainty
07-09-2016 09:46 #18
Could you postpone getting your tubes tied until he gets more information about a vasectomy?
Would you hold it against him if you get your tubes tied and have effects from it?
07-09-2016 09:52 #19
He has all the pamphlets with info of the different methods. He has close friends who've had it done and have encouraged him to 'just do it'
He is so against having it done himself he seemed almost pleased that i need the exploratory gyn surgery as now its 'easy' for me to have it done
07-09-2016 10:44 #20Senior Member
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OP, has your DH read any info on post tubal ligation syndrome. I am your DH in that I refuse to have my tubes tied...it will never be happening. I said it from before we even had kids...either he got a vasectomy or we would rely on condoms forever. DH was not thrilled that I just refused to do it...he had really only known of women to have their tubes tied, and knew no one who had a vasectomy. Then I showed him the information on ptls, and pointed out how many of them my mum had suffered with...serious symptoms that were life changing for her. It opened DH's eyes as to why I wasn't prepared to risk it. In the end, he chose to have a vasectomy, which I was obviously thrilled with...but if he refused it would have been condoms and abstinence around ovulation.
No, your DH shouldn't feel forced to have a vasectomy, but you shouldn't feel forced to have a procedure you're uncomfortable with either.
Good luck ☺
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