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    I've been pretty quiet on here. Still recovering from surgery that I had weeks ago, one of the incisions got infected and another one split open and is now healing.
    Got back to work and being made redundant. So hubby wants to stop IVF due to money or until I get another job. I've said we should still do one or 2 more cycles as planned this year. As it would be cheaper this year.

    I've got endo, stage 4 and lots of scarring. At its worst I was bleeding for 4 months non stop, used to pass out in pain. It is very possible to have endo and no symptoms, have lots of pain and not much endo and lots of endo and lots of pain.

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    @Grace1 I'm 42 also but even though my hormone levels are all good and AMH not to bad for my age we have mfi and my embies don't seem to survive past 3 days so I guess she doesn't hold much hope for me never getting to blast stage but Im still holding onto the fact that it's a numbers game and my numbers may just come up if I keep playing. It's sad that they want to give up on me first.

    @ceseardust how's the flight? good luck for your POAS tomorrow, I have everything crossed for you.

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    The age 45 is an individual FS thing. Because I have regular cycles and am ovulating normally, my new FS was happy to do a cycle and see what happened even though I'm over 45. I had four follies that looked good, but by the time I was ready for EPU only one was left and I didn't want to spend the money to go to EPU for one egg. He was happy to do another cycle or two to tweak the meds and see if I could get to 2 or 3 follies so we could get an egg pick up and see if there were any good ones in there, but the meds make me so sick I decided it wasn't worth it and that DE would be my path.

    Then as you all know I did fall pregnant naturally last month - so it can happen at 45 - but of course it turned out to be a chem. Although knowing what I know now about Autoimmune Progesterone Dermatitis (which I and my doctor suspects I have), I wonder whether the pregnancy would have continued if I had have either not used extra progesterone, or if I had have been on Prednisone and Clexane prior to using progesterone. We'll never know, but at least I'm getting further testing done to see if I definitely do have that. It was unlikely that it was a healthy pregnancy, but as @Blossom74's Mum can testify - there are miracles that do happen at this age!

    So unless you were regularly getting good healthy numbers and strong, chromosomally normal embies at age 45, I can't see with the odds of 0-1% that it is worth continuing. I had to do another cycle to put my mind at rest, and if I wanted to keep pushing for cycle after cycle at my age, with my results, then I would expect the FS to be questioning my mental health rather than allowing me to keep going with pretty much zero chance of success.
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    I have a plan! @Tahli I know you will be happy with me!)

    So, I've been flirting around the edges of DE for about 18 months now and the difficulty has been lack of finances on my part, and my DH not willing to contribute financially at all. It's been a big issue in our marriage, and although things are very good now between us in almost every way - this is still a problem.

    So, I've decided to go ahead with DE 'on my own' as I'm not willing to wait for DH to get his sh!t together. He definitely wants a DE baby, I have no doubts about that, but for whatever reason (and I can't get to the bottom of it - maybe we would in counseling) he has issues with him being the sole breadwinner and also having to fork out for DE. He just spent $50K increasing custody with his son, and pays $23K a year in child support, but apparently there's no funds for DE. Whatever.

    So it's up to me and if lovely single ladies like @Tahli can do this on their own, then so can I!

    My plan is:
    • Start the process with Supercare on Monday to withdraw my Super for DE
    • Do my very best to create $10K net profit in my business over the next few months (which is possible) to also go towards DE
    • Book in for a hysteroscopy, NKC biopsy, scratch and flush with Wazza ASAP
    • Book in with allergy specialist to see if I can get a diagnosis and plan for potential Autoimmune Progesterone Dermatitis
    • Get any further testing that I need done and have appointment with Dr M for any further immune, clotting, NKC, HLA issues that come up (none have been found so far, only MTHFR)
    • Book in with Dr Wyn-Williams in Brisbane for an assessment of whether I could have silent endo - he is apparently one of the best of being able to tell from vaginal ultrasound if he thinks it's an issue
    • Decide on DE options - Hawaii, SA or Known Donors in Brisbane - I have emailed all of them now and will narrow it down over the next month or two as to which way I want to go and what I can afford
    • Aim to cycle in January or February next year

    I'll also see about getting DH into counseling to see if we are on the same page or not, or if I'll be doing this as a single woman. But I'm forging ahead regardless - I think DH will catch up once I've got things rolling - but I still think we'll need counseling to deal with the fall out as I feel completely alone and unsupported with this and actually think he's being quite cruel and selfish in regards to us starting our family with donor eggs. We've dealt really well with a lot of other stuff, so I feel quite confident in our relationship as a whole, but this is a sticking point that hasn't been resolved as yet and it's a biggie.

    But I'm not waiting any longer. BIB you can add me to January for DE!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by pingc383 View Post
    @Summer - is Dr M doing your immune testing?
    @pingc383 I've already had lots of it done and it's all clear, but I do want to see if there are any other tests that have maybe been missed, and also I do need a NKC biopsy. I just need to find out exactly what he tests for and whether Wazza does the same. But yes, I will be speaking to him about immune issues, especially as we now suspect the autoimmune progesterone thing which is fairly rare.

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    Good on you @Summer for forging ahead to make your dreams come true

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    Quote Originally Posted by Summer View Post
    I have a plan! @Tahli I know you will be happy with me!)

    So, I've been flirting around the edges of DE for about 18 months now and the difficulty has been lack of finances on my part, and my DH not willing to contribute financially at all. It's been a big issue in our marriage, and although things are very good now between us in almost every way - this is still a problem.

    So, I've decided to go ahead with DE 'on my own' as I'm not willing to wait for DH to get his sh!t together. He definitely wants a DE baby, I have no doubts about that, but for whatever reason (and I can't get to the bottom of it - maybe we would in counseling) he has issues with him being the sole breadwinner and also having to fork out for DE. He just spent $50K increasing custody with his son, and pays $23K a year in child support, but apparently there's no funds for DE. Whatever.

    So it's up to me and if lovely single ladies like @Tahli can do this on their own, then so can I!

    My plan is:
    • Start the process with Supercare on Monday to withdraw my Super for DE
    • Do my very best to create $10K net profit in my business over the next few months (which is possible) to also go towards DE
    • Book in for a hysteroscopy, NKC biopsy, scratch and flush with Wazza ASAP
    • Book in with allergy specialist to see if I can get a diagnosis and plan for potential Autoimmune Progesterone Dermatitis
    • Get any further testing that I need done and have appointment with Dr M for any further immune, clotting, NKC, HLA issues that come up (none have been found so far, only MTHFR)
    • Book in with Dr Wyn-Williams in Brisbane for an assessment of whether I could have silent endo - he is apparently one of the best of being able to tell from vaginal ultrasound if he thinks it's an issue
    • Decide on DE options - Hawaii, SA or Known Donors in Brisbane - I have emailed all of them now and will narrow it down over the next month or two as to which way I want to go and what I can afford
    • Aim to cycle in January or February next year

    I'll also see about getting DH into counseling to see if we are on the same page or not, or if I'll be doing this as a single woman. But I'm forging ahead regardless - I think DH will catch up once I've got things rolling - but I still think we'll need counseling to deal with the fall out as I feel completely alone and unsupported with this and actually think he's being quite cruel and selfish in regards to us starting our family with donor eggs. We've dealt really well with a lot of other stuff, so I feel quite confident in our relationship as a whole, but this is a sticking point that hasn't been resolved as yet and it's a biggie.

    But I'm not waiting any longer. BIB you can add me to January for DE!!!
    Hi @Summer just thought id let you know, i also fund all the ivf stuff we do with my own money. Dh and i went halves on the first cycle but once i realised i was pretty much gonna spend everything i could he was fine with supporting me totally and willing to do everything i needed but it didnt feel right for me to ask him to pay for my crazy dream. I also would have done de ivf as a 'single' woman if he wasnt willing to continue and he was fine with that too. So, i know probably, other people might find that weird but your relationship doesnt have to be the same as 'society' expects it to be. (My plan is that he will end up paying his share, when ive got a baby and say im not going back to work, lol). For me, i like it because it means i can do whatever i want ivf wise and i dont have to compromise or discuss or try to convince him of anything, which actually makes it less stressful for me. I figure its a bit like, as he is a musician, if he came to me and said, "ive got a crazy dream to become a rock star and i need you to fund my crazy dream so you have to give me all your spare money and remortgage your house etc.. to support my dream." I would be like, fruck that! You buy what u want with your money and I'll buy what i want with mine.
    Im sorry that the non shared costs thing is an issue for you and dp though. I guess i just wanted to say, you're not alone in funding ivf yourself and i dont think its weird that you would go it alone but still remain with dp. I figure its no different to meeting someone if you had kids from a previous partner. And 'support' in a relationship can come in msny different forms. xox

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    Quote Originally Posted by Grace1 View Post
    Good on you @Summer for forging ahead to make your dreams come true

    ^^^ THIS ^^^ I read your post @Summer and quietly cheered for you. You little ripper, I'm so bl00dy glad you're gonna give it a go!

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    @Twiglets, I'm really sorry to hear about your redundancy. That sucks balls.

    I was made redundant in my old job (many years ago now) and at the time I was so mad and insulted and embarrassed. BUT....It turned out to be the best thing that ever could have happened to me. I wasn't happy in the job anyway and as soon as I made it known around town what had happened, I got two job offers. It was like one door closing and the others all opened. I wish the same for you hon

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