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19-08-2016 06:20 #21
19-08-2016 06:20 #22
He has been my only friend for 5yrs.. he knows all my quirks and I know his
19-08-2016 06:21 #23
Im just so sad
19-08-2016 06:42 #24Senior Member
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Hey - hugs hugs hugs hugs.
It is not your fault. At all. Not one iota.
You need to stop calling/texting him. Just for now as he wilk continue to hurt you.
Are you friendly with any neighbours? What about family? I'm sorry as I am not close to you or I would come have coffee.
19-08-2016 06:54 #25
19-08-2016 06:57 #26
Hi emmie, I'm so sorry that this has happened. I imagine you're in shock right now.
I don't know this man so can't comment on him as a person but he is treating you very badly right now. You calling your partner when you've had a rough night with your children should be ok and is definitely not something to lash out over in this way.
You said things have been tense so I don't know what else has been happening to make him react like this, if anything, but I agree that you just need to cut off contact for a while. I know how hard that is. But until he can grow up and discuss his feelings without abusing you then I'm afraid you will end up feeling worse and worse.
I'm also a big believer in balance and at the moment you begging him to take you back is giving him all the power and you none while sending him the message that he can treat you appallingly and you will still want to be with him. Do you want to go down that path?
I understand your sadness, I truly do, and your fear. But you will get through this. I promise. We're here if you need.
19-08-2016 07:45 #27
Hey try and get out in the sun and fresh air if you can. Take your DS to the park once the older kids are at school, stop somewhere and have an indulgent treat with him - something special.
Look after yourself and your children.
Ignore that man until you can put up some boundaries to protect your self from him.
19-08-2016 07:51 #28
Yes I think I am in shock..
He is my only friend
19-08-2016 08:13 #29
He is a bad friend Hun you deserve so much better.
Do you have any family that may be able to support you?
19-08-2016 09:12 #30
With friends like him who needs enemies. I know it doesn't feel like it now but he's doing you the biggest favour. One day you will find happiness, but this person can never make you happy.
Start with practicalities. Cancel any shared credit cards. Split the money in your bank account, I would take 2/3 as you have to support your son. If you still intend on minding his other children then account for that too.
Contact Centrelink and start the ball rolling. This is REALLY important. Things always start from the date of contact.
Whose name is on the house? Is it rented? If it's in his name you might need to find somewhere else or have it transferred to yours.
I know it all feels overwhelming right now. But please do not contact him!! Just get on with your life. Get yourself independent. Then decide if you do want him back or if it was just the fear of the Unknown
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