Who is game to admit they were one/are one? What's the motivation? Does it feel good to be mean?
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18-08-2016 15:07 #1Senior Member
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Are you/Were you a Mean Girl?
18-08-2016 15:08 #2
Nope, but I had the hell bullied out of me by several so I'm very keen to see the responses.
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18-08-2016 15:15 #3
Are you/Were you a Mean Girl?
I was bullied at times and also bullied others. I think to a certain extent a lot of my behaviour was normal for a teenage girl but I still carry a lot of guilt about things I did or participated in back then.
The girls in my high school group were quite nasty to each other. It was a toxic environment.
They certainly didn't bring out the best in me. I'm no longer friends with any of the girls from high school.
Needless to say I started hanging out with boys and even now prefer the company of males. No gossip, no bull****.
Eta so so glad social media etc didn't exist back then
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18-08-2016 15:26 #4
I can honestly say I wasn't a mean girl during school. I was the popular girl that would talk to everyone which was probably a good trait to have. It did cause a lot of people to be jealous and want to talk about me which I just brushed off!
As I got older I got a bit more c0cky and mean, more so I didn't take anyone's cr4p and refused to be walked over. Yep, it felt good to be a strong women, not so good if I really hurt someone emotionally.
18-08-2016 15:38 #5
No. I was outcast throughout primary school which was hard. In high school I was a drifter and moved between groups. I had a few fights with my friends but I never bullied anyone.
18-08-2016 15:42 #6Senior Member
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I always remember being bullied at school, but I also know I was a right b*tch as well. I was the kid that was on the outside of the cool kids, I hung with them, but I wasn't the popular one of the group. So I'd go along with a lot of what they said/did and I really regret it. I've since apologised to a few girls I went to school with and they understood, said we were all as bad etc. But I definitely felt terrible about it.
I was badly bullied at work a while back and it ruined me. I took a break from BH around the same time and it really made me try to stop and think before I say anything now, both in real life and online. I'm really opinionated but I try now and think "is this worth saying?" or "will this upset anyone unnecessarily?"
I think having kids really changed me too, especially now my oldest is at school. I never say anything negative about anyone in front of her and try we talk a lot about the power of words and the effect on others.
18-08-2016 15:51 #7
Nope, no mean girl here.
This thread got me thinking though. In year 9 I hung out with the uber cool girls. Some of them were lovely but some of them were right bishes. I was miserable. It took me the whole year to figure out why I was so miserable (hello emotional immaturity). It was the fact that I was aligning myself with these mean girls by being part of their group. Our values were so mismatched and I was so stressed all of the time. I am a loving person and can't stand people being hurt. So yep, it was a tough year for me.
In year 10 I gravitated away from the bishes with people I loved who were like-minded. Subsequently, the next 3 years were awesome.
18-08-2016 15:51 #8
No, I was way too quiet and shy. I was bullied, and changed friendship groups a few times because of it. Although, I did find out (by accident) that quite a lot of people thought I was a b!tch and a snob because I didn't talk to many of the people in our grade, let alone school. I was just too shy. Talking to people I didn't know made me anxious.
18-08-2016 15:54 #9
"I" don't think I was a mean girl but I might have come across as one to some , we weren't nasty or bullied anyone but we had our own seats in the playground that no one else would go near kinda thing , most of us were prefects /captains and quite sporty or in drama so again were a very confident group ( about ten of us) so probably did come across as *****y ( this was in the 80,s at a girls school - no social media, no mobile phones!)
Again today I'm very confident and not shy so probably unintentionally might intimidate some of the more quieter people but definitely am not mean!!!
18-08-2016 16:08 #10
I think i toed the line somewhere in the middle, i wasnt popular nor was i bullied.
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