Just interested in what others think.
My toddler and I went to toddler time at the library yesterday - bit of singing and dancing for the toddlers, that sort of thing. Lots of parents and little ones. Mostly mums, some dads, some grandparents. Fairly crowded.
About mid way through, one of the other mums I chat to from time to time pointed out an older man and said something like "I don't like the look of him".
I hadn't noticed him before this, but I then paid a bit of attention, and the man didn't seem to be with anyone - he seemed to be there by himself without a child. He was just watching what was going on. When it was finished, he just wandered off by himself.
The library's a public place, and people can do what they want... but it was a bit odd.
What do you think?
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16-08-2016 13:13 #1
What do you think - man at toddler time
16-08-2016 13:36 #2Senior Member
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It could be innocent. I've found old people just love kids, especially babies and toddlers. I'm forever getting stopped when I'm with DD2 for oldies that just want to chat to her and say hello and seem to get such a kick out of her quirky ways and giggles.
But at the same time in this day and age you can never be too safe. I'd just not let your kids out of your sight and keep an eye on him.
16-08-2016 13:47 #3
How old is older? If he was like a grandpa he may have just been curious and kind of "people watching".
16-08-2016 13:48 #4Senior Member
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Could he have been a child's grandparent?
16-08-2016 14:31 #5
I'm sure it's innocent but at the same time I guess you have to be vigilant. I used to work in a public library years ago and we caught one bloke watching p0rn on the computers and one guy was caught trying to expose himself to a little girl
16-08-2016 14:35 #6
I don't think it would have bothered me.
16-08-2016 14:43 #7He could have been a grandpa checking it out? You never know what people are doing, my DH was just laughing the other day because he was meeting his dad (DD and DS's grandfather) who is very involved with our kids at a playground. DH was running a bit late so grandpa was waiting by himself in the playground. It was cold so he was wearing a big coat and hat. DH commented what a weird old man he looked sitting in a playground all by himself.
I guess my point is that sometimes people do have innocent motivations, they just manage to look a but weird going about it.
16-08-2016 14:46 #8
It wouldn't have bothered me I don't think. I often have old men (and women) striking up conversations with DS when I'm out and about. I generally assume they're lonely or nostalgic.
Yeah you have to keep an eye out but unless he had his hands down his pants I wouldn't assume it was sinister.
16-08-2016 15:09 #9Member
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He may have had an intellectual disability and been enjoying the music. Given he wondered off without a fuss then it wouldn't have bothered me. I would have kept my eye on him though just in case
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16-08-2016 15:16 #10
Thanks everyone. I wasn't too worried - i just thought it was a bit odd, that's all, not being there with a child. He was probably about mid 50s.
I don't like to be suspicious, but the other mum seemed quite concerned, so i just wanted to check other people's reactions to see if i was completely off base. I think he was probably just there to enjoy watching all that toddler energy and joy. Hope I'm not being too naive ☺
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