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    Default Talking to boys about periods.

    Hi there, I have two young sons (5&3) and they are at the stage of following me everywhere....including the toilet. My DS5 asked today "what's that?" when I was getting a pad I just said "it's a pad" and he asked "what for?". I just said "it's just for mummy".
    He was happy with that answer but I was pretty disappointed in my response. I always want to be open with them but wasn't sure what the appropriate thing to say was for this age.

    Any advice?

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    I think you said the right thing. You didn't lie to him and he didn't ask to elaborate. Telling them too much might make them worry and I don't think they'll understand.

    I actually don't remember telling my kids about it. I'm sure my 4 year old son has seen me in the shower during AF but has never asked.

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    My 4yo walked in on me in the toilet the other day when I was in very heavy AF, so was changing a blood soaked pad. He is ASD and gets massive anxiety attacks whenever he sees even a speck of blood so it took a while to calm him down. But I basically just explained to him that girls sometimes bleed a bit and that's how they know there isn't a baby growing in them. I elaborated a little but that was the gist. He seemed okay with that. It was all I could think of on the spot.

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    My son's school took care of that for me 😳 I just would have explained that it was part of being a woman and related it to the chickens next door that give eggs without the baby chickens. All those discussions need to be child led and age appropriate

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    Quote Originally Posted by Spincycle View Post
    My son's school took care of that for me 😳 I just would have explained that it was part of being a woman and related it to the chickens next door that give eggs without the baby chickens. All those discussions need to be child led and age appropriate
    He might have thought you were laying an egg! Lol ☺

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    I have always started with my 4 (2 of each) that they were "Mummy's special bandaids" and the periods were my bodies way of telling everything is ok/working perfect.

    As they got older, I have elaborated/changed the language to suit the child

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    Even at 4 I would tell my kids (boy and girl) it's my period. All girls get it when they are older and when you are older I'll tell you more about it. They were always happy with that. My 11 yo DS saw me laying down the other day and said mun do you have your period? Can I get your hot pack? Just normal part of life here. He's going to make a great husband

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    My son walks in on me in the toilet all the time. He asked me what my pad was and I said it's something for girls. He was happy with that and didn't ask further...honestly at 5&3 they dont need further clarification nor do they care. My son was als happy with the response when he asked me why girls don't have a penis.

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    Thank you for this thread @moosey! Mine are too young, DS1 2 years DS2 9 months, but the info will be really useful for me for future when they ask me these questions.

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