The Over 40's Warrior Woman Roll Call
- @Caesardust - DE Cycle - Cape Town
- @Lastchance75 - DE FETx3 Hawaii
- @Charlie74 - OE FET
- @Grace1 - OE Cycle -EPU 16/08
- @pingc383 - OE FET - 18/08
- @LillyM - OE Cycle -
- @skeeter - OE Cycle
- @ange1111- OE Cycle
- @Heyside - Day 5 transfer x 2 08/08
- @Arianasmum - Day 3 transfer 08/08
- @Maxwellsmum - Day 5 transfer 13/08
- @pkgjmg - Day 5 transfer x 2 12/08
- @Green lady - BFFP!!!
- @midnite01 - BFFP!!!!
- @winsor - First counselling appointment 25/08
- @Blossom74 -Final counselling session 18/08
- @Summer-Deciding on DE options with DH
- @MissDa - EDA
- @40NotOut - OE Stim Cycle (July)
- @JulieMalooley - B/G Twins Delivered C-Section 24/05
- @faithandhopellove - Baby Girl + Angel Baby "Little Bubba" 31/05
- @Corbes -Baby Girl 08/07
- @Bongley-Baby Boy - 14/07
- @Lolly99 - B/G Twins Delivered C-Sections 21/07
- @Felicity Fox - EDD 19th October
- @AnnaMM - EDD 19th December
- @MamaKes- EDD- 23 December
- @Gagingi - EDD- 25 December
- @Molros - EDD - 28 December
- @Gen72- EDD 6 Jan 2017
- @Precious40- EDD 13 Jan 2017
- @tegs26 - EDD 31 Jan 2017
- @Green lady - EDD 11 Mar 2017
- @Blossom74 - DE Cycle - Aus
- @Rhino - DE Cycle - Greece
- @tuxcat - DE Cycle- Aus - 06/09
- @gorgeousgeorge - DE Cycle - Greece
- @Tahli - DE TET Cape Town??
- @Twiglets - OE Cycle
- @amie999 - DE Cycle
- @Summer - DE Cycle
- @Bradders - DE Cycle - Greece
- @winsor - DE Cycle - Aus
- @emski72 - DE Cycle - Cape Town
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13-08-2016 12:05 #1
IVF over 40#37
Last edited by BlondeinBrisvegas; 14-08-2016 at 17:29.
13-08-2016 19:25 #2
@Charlie74 yeah it's hard, people don't understand the complexity of infertility so to a point they understand why you aren't around much but only to a point I think. You've got a good chance with your normal embies so try and stay focussed on the now. I've only just spoken out openly to my school friends about our steps in to donor eggs and they haven't known much about the whole IVF thing as we just haven't talked about it and I've avoided a lot of gatherings especially over the past 2 years and especially when it involves partners and kids. Do what you can and do what you need to do to protect yourself and that includes making up any excuse to get out of stuff if you can't do it. Xx
13-08-2016 19:46 #3Senior Member
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Ive told ms e that she will be getting a large invoice on her 21st. She had better be earning money by then.
13-08-2016 20:16 #4
I have had friends comment on our lack of pregnancy/ baby facebook posts. When I try to explain it is because we don't want to cause pain to other friends with fertility issues the response is usually a puzzled expression. People without fertility problems have no idea how painful it is to hear about other peoples pregnancies and baby posts. A friend of mine recently told me of a mutual friends IVF pregnancy. She was early 30's, no fertility issues but decided she wanted kids on her own. So social IVF... and it worked... on her first attempt. I was so crushed. I understand why she would want that. I really do. But the crushing weight of all DH and my natural, medicated and finally 6 IVF attempts made me want to punch her in the face. Why did it have to be so flippin difficult for us!
13-08-2016 20:29 #5
That's really considerate of you @faithandhopellove I hope I do the same when /if we get there. I'm guessing even after success there is still a lot of scarring, I've heard that from people who have been there. My SIL and brother went through years of trying and IVF and ended up with a ds but I always notice it's my brother who talks openly about their struggles and not her. I guess it's a personal thing and some people have trouble talking about it at all to others even after its all over. I think it's important to always acknowledge it and to be sensitive to others. Good on you. Hope all is well with you and bubs. I hope you're loving being a mum xx
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13-08-2016 22:19 #6Senior Member
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midnite01. Touching lots of wood and not wanting to jinx anything, but it feels like you're flying under the radar with a lovely uneventful early pregnancy. Are you feeling quietly optimistic yet? Or are you sort of holding your breath and keeping busy? Your DH must be stoked. A scan at the end of the month...is that around the 7 week mark? Huge hugs that you keep progressing as you are.
13-08-2016 22:45 #7Senior Member
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- Mar 2015
The next day, after my morphine injection, they transferred me to a single room in an adult ward. It gave me a good amount of time for quiet reflection.
This was the hospital I wanted to give birth in but on the arduous FET treadmill I've well and truly lost sight of the end game. I visualised a newborn baby in a cot next to my bed and asked myself some hard questions.
I'm so glad I had the hernia repair surgery as there's no way it would have supported a pregnancy. What I didn't expect was appreciating those quiet moments to truly reflect and to make a personal discovery. An awakening.
14-08-2016 07:31 #8
Tahli I was just saying to a colleague of mine who has just suffered through her third miscarriage in the last 6 months that I'm absolutely gutted and heartbroken for her and she said she knows I know how it feels. I said to her I don't at all, I have never suffered a miscarriage and can't even contemplate the pain. I have no idea what two lines on a preg test would even feel like, I thought at the beginning of this I would focus on the end-the baby, but I also feel like I've lost sight of the end result. I can't imagine ever being pregnant, having a baby or even a family anymore. I am actually starting to get petrified of this de cycle working if that makes sense. I saw my nephew yesterday and it didn't stir up those feelings of love and adoration it probably should've. I'm very much full of self doubt that I'm doing the right thing now. What was your self discovery?
14-08-2016 10:06 #9
@Tahli @Caesardust I know what you mean about the end result thing - the actual baby. I felt like that when I was doing cycle after cycle - like it was almost about beating the odds and proving the Drs wrong/getting a good quality blast etc. I lost sight of the actual baby part and I think its probably a defence mechanism because so much had gone wrong. Now for good or bad DH and I are even talking about names!! Ive been thinking a lot about if this works and how our life will change, stuff with the house and which room we would use etc. Im allowing myself to think its going to happen as is DH and its scary on one hand but also really lovely on the other. I just feel so sick of being the pessimist.
its funny how the simplicity of laying in a hospital gives you some mental space to think - I had that same experience last year - got out of there and quit my job, it made me realise life was too short to put up with that cr@p!!
I so hope it works for you @Caesardust!!
How are you feeling? @Tahli
14-08-2016 11:46 #10Senior Member
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