Dh thinks I'm a killjoy.
We are going out sat night once the kids are in bed for an Olympic party. I haven't been out in months.
I find since I had my first I struggle to enjoy myself. I can't let my hair down. All I think about is how I have to get up at 5am with the kids, I have tonnes of chores to do.....
Honestly, I had a few drinks awhile ago, stayed up till 1am, it was fun, BUT was up at 430am with dd2 (then when she went back to sleep dd1 got up) and felt like crap and the whole next day was a write off and I spent all week trying to catch up on washing etc. so in my eyes to have fun for one night was not worth it.
Dh says I've changed. He just doesn't get it. Am I the only one who feels this way? I'm looking forward to a night out but at the same time know it's going to be hell to pay and I'm already starting to panic. Am I now officially boring?
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12-08-2016 13:45 #1
Do you enjoy nights out when you have young kids?
12-08-2016 13:50 #2
Tell your husband he can get up to the kids on Sunday morning and see how much he would be looking forward to it.
Honestly, all my school friends are all turning 40 this year. Last Saturday night I stayed at my friend's house and my husband was with the kids. I'm going away for the night for another one on 20th.
If we were both going out together, I probably wouldn't drink and I would drive. I don't drink much these days anyway.
12-08-2016 14:10 #3
I can't enjoy a late night because of the same reasons.
12-08-2016 14:15 #4Senior Member
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Feel the same!
We have a wedding to go to later in the month and I am absolutely dreading it. It will also be the first time the baby has been babysat (by MIL & FIL and I'm so nervous about it I feel sick). I'm really wishing I had an excuse not to go. The husband cannot wait, he's so excited as its our first time out together in literally years
12-08-2016 14:17 #5
Nope - I'm the same. At the moment, loss of potential sleep is a major stressor for me. I'm still getting up multiple times for DD and DS has never been a great sleeper so I'm tired all the time.
Similarly to you, the few times I have gone out I come home to a screaming baby who takes ages to settle and then an early riser with DS (all the while DH sleeps after taking meds).
I'm so much better if we go out for day functions - things at night .
And if that's boring We can be boring together!
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12-08-2016 14:22 #6Senior Member
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I'm the same. I don't tend to relax as much as the kids are on my mind.
I have friends who are the opposite. They're not worried at all about the kids and go as hard as they ever did.
12-08-2016 14:24 #7
I'm the opposite. When I am out I make the most of it! Washing etc can wait.
12-08-2016 14:24 #8
I have only been on about 3 nights out in the last 6 years without my kids. Honestly, I just don't enjoy it. I prefer being with my kids. I kind of just sit there thinking "I could be watching a movie with them" or wondering if they liked their dinner etc. I just can't give my friends the attention because my mind is elsewhere.
12-08-2016 14:32 #9
We don't go out much for a night out as a couple, but usually I can relax when we do. I do however only have one 5 year old who's a good sleeper and doesn't wake unreasonably early.
I think you can still go out and have a good time when you have young kids, but one parent does have to be the one to get up earlier and tend to the children's needs the next morning. And it's not fair if the mother is always that parent.
I go away for a night or weekend with my girlfriends a couple of times a year and leave DS and DH at home. That way I can really take off the 'mum hat' for the night and let loose a little. Wine time rocks!
12-08-2016 14:35 #10
I'm the same also. I just can't relax anymore so therefore I just don't enjoy it. All my friends went to an advance screening of bad moms he other night as a girls night out thing. I declined. I would be watching the time constantly and stressing about if DS has gotten to sleep (unlikely as it's always been me who does bedtime) and then I would be dreading the morning. I don't bother anymore. To be honest I find it very hard to relax and enjoy much these days. DS was such a hard baby, I haven't moved past the anxiety it created for me. And then there's the 30 weeks pregnant thing. I'm too tired for much these days.
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