We leave home at the same time each morning, kiss goodbye and then one of us will usually text the other around lunch time just to say "love you" or similar. We might text if something super interesting happens at work or if I need to pass a message on, like sometimes my parents pick our daughter up from daycare so I need to let him know. One of us then calls the other when we're about half way home from work to see who is closest and who will pick our daughter up, and we'll chat for 15-20 minutes about our day because when we get home it's mayhem trying to get dinner cooked, kid bathed and put to sleep.
I have a friend and pre-kids when we'd often go shopping together or spend a day out together, she would easily speak to her now husband at least hourly. He would call her all the time, I have no idea why, he never seemed controlling or jealous except when she was out without him and it was like he was constantly checking up on her. I was in a relationship with my now husband so it's not like she was out with me trying to pick up, and he'd known me for years. Strange dynamic, not sure if it's still the same. A bit off topic sorry, but I just find it really rude when you're there to catch up with someone who you might only see fortnightly / monthly and they're constantly talking to their partner who they see every day!
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06-08-2016 15:04 #21
06-08-2016 15:05 #22
I see other females I know regularly calling or texting their female friends about funny things or general gossip etc. I don't have that. My husband is that for me. So that's why I described it as being because he is my best friend. I probably should have more said it's because he is pretty much my only friend hahaha
06-08-2016 15:10 #23
How often do you talk to your partner?
We say goodbye in the morning. He's usually at home and I go to work mon-fri.. Unless there's something some issue that needs to be discussed, we won't chat on the phone during the day but will send a couple of SMS or text on messenger just to "check in" but there are some days where we don't do that. One of us always calls the other when I'm on my way home from work, and we discuss what's for dinner, who's picking kids up from childcare (if it's a childcare day).
this time of year I am so busy at work that he knows not to call me because I'm usually in a meeting.
ETA - when either of us are out with friends we will send an SMS at some point in the night, usually before we are heading home, but otherwise we would not bother each other. I wouldn't want to sit on the phone while I'm having dinner with friends and vice versa.
06-08-2016 15:56 #24Junior Member
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I'm enjoying reading everyone's answers. And I guess as long as the people in the relationship have a similar need for communication (i.e, one person isn't too needy or one person isn't too distant) then that's all that matters.
I agree with the rudness of being on the phone while out to dinner with other people.
A few years ago I went on a girls trip away to the Gold Coast for the week. This was early 20s, pre kids.. minimal responsibilities! One of the girls would check in with her partner constantly during the day and then spend 2hrs minimum by herself on the balcony on the phone to him each night. That actually put a dampener on the trip because she would rather stay at the hotel on the phone that join in with whatever we had planned.
We were all glad to have a break from the men for a week!
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06-08-2016 17:11 #26Senior Member
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I go 48 hrs every week without talking to H even though he's in the same house as me . Our work hours and my night classes over lap 2 days a week. We don't text during the day unless an emergency. We spend a lot of time not talking even in same room. We used to go on date nights to dinner but we never chatted so it stopped. He talks a lot about himself and his job and his friends there. I'm still waiting 24 hrs later for him to ask why I came home from work crying yesterday.
06-08-2016 17:48 #27
Unless I'm awake when dp leaves at 630am we won't speak til sometime during the day as he's on building sites and I have a new bubs attached to me. But if we spoke all the time at work we'd have nothing to discuss at night
06-08-2016 18:08 #28
We have a quick chat and say goodbye when I leave in the morning, chat once through the day around lunchtime, then chat at home at night.
If DH is doing night shift he'll call once in his meal break to say a quick hello.
It's just what we do.
If I'm out with friends I give them my attention though. I wouldn't sit there sending unnecessary texts or making little phone calls home.
06-08-2016 18:22 #29
This is an interesting thread. I leave for work and DH is still asleep. I do not kiss him goodbye or speak a word before I leave as I don't want to wake him...I hate him waking me.
I'll usually text when I get to work as I know he'll be awake, and then once in the day. We talk over dinner. Not much in bed as we go to bed at different times. I'd love to chat in bed though.
I don't view my DH as my best friend (I think it's sweet that others can) my best friend is from Yr 8 and we have a bond that I would not imagine having with my DH. But I think that's ok. My DH and I have a strong relationship in our own way
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