I started a thread a few weeks ago about a friend who I percieved to be clingy and overbearing. Some posters agreed whereas other saw it as a normal friendship with a healthy amount of communication. It was really interesting to see different people's perspectives of friendship.
I have another question for my own curiosity : How often do you and your partner communicate?
E.g, Do you say goodbye in the morning and talk next when you see each other that night? Or are you usually calling and messaging each other throughout the day?
If you are apart for a few days, do you still phone every night? Or do you enjoy your own space?
Its funny going out to dinner/ drinks with the girlfriends that some of them are constantly messaging and updating their partners durng the night while others like me just wait until I see him in a few hours. Some get so worked up when their partners do not reply.
My partner is a truck driver and he's usually away for a full week per month doing interstate. In that week we usually have a 15 minute chat each night and that suits us just fine.
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06-08-2016 12:17 #1Junior Member
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How often do you talk to your partner?
06-08-2016 12:22 #2Senior Member
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We say goodbye in the morning, dont talk at all until I ring on the way home to check if we need anything. If I am away for work it might be a quick 5min call at night to check in/talk to the kids. He used to work 4w on/off and our only comms was via email. Im not needy for constant communication, we are secure in our relationship and I like my space - lots of it ...
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06-08-2016 12:40 #3Senior Member
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DH and I talk a few times a day normally. He's often on the road at work in between jobs so will call for a quick chat. We've always got something to talk about and we're best buddies.
He's away at the moment for 2 months and we also talk each night for 15-20 minutes.
If I was out with friends I wouldn't be texting him aside from maybe I'm leaving soon or I'm going to be late or something. I wouldn't expect any more from him if he was out socialising either as I think it's rude to sit on your phone texting when hanging with other people.
I love my own space but I don't feel that talking to my DH when we are apart intrudes on that at all.
06-08-2016 12:42 #4Senior Member
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Multiple times a day.
If one of us is going out somewhere without the other there's usually a message once that person has arrived at their destination and one when leaving.
On regular days there's usually a few phone calls and messages back and forth.
I went away for work for 2 weeks earlier this year. So there was a call in the morning, messages and calls during the day (when there was phone reception) and face timing using the free wifi at the motels in the evening.
My partner is my best friend. When something good bad or otherwise happens, the first person I want to tell is my partner.
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06-08-2016 12:45 #5
mornings we drop dh to work (shared car) so we do goodbye kiss then. if he leaves the house and we are home he will always come in and say bye, give me a kiss etc. usually I'll say I love you, have a good day etc.
we'll text a big during the day if there's something to discuss. if I'm at work and bored I'll usually text and ask how his day is going. we don't talk on the phone in the day unless there's something to actually talk about (like an issue).
if we spend a few days apart, we're in contact more often, like checking in with eachother more (just landed, just got to the hotel etc).
I'm going out tonight without him for the first time since ds was born so I wonder if I'll be texting him much. I'm hoping not. he went out last night without me and I didn't hear much from him. I'm definitely not going to spend the whole night on the phone to him lol
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06-08-2016 12:47 #6
We text to say good morning on his break at work, then usually chat back and forth, but it's not something either of us expect the other to do and no issue if it doesn't happen.
Occasionally we'll text if we're not together, but same as above in that it's not expected, and we wouldn't get the ****s if there's no reply.
I definitely couldn't sit there and continuously text him if I was out with friends, I'd feel it's rude to my company.
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06-08-2016 12:53 #7
After we separate in the morning we generally don't text or speak until we get home from work unless there's something urgent. we are both just too busy to text / chat. When he's away we email as he's often overseas and doesn't have access to texting.
We've been together for 24 years but I have never needed to speak to him daily. It's just not how we work.
06-08-2016 12:58 #8
Dh is normally gone before we get up but he will always come in and give me a kiss and say goodbye. We then don't usually talk again until he's home unless either of us need something throughout the day. Dh is a sales rep so is away from home a little bit. The kids ring him before they go to bed and we might exchange a few texts but we don't actually speak on the phone. We really just talk when we need to when he's away. He fills me in on everything when he gets home. I've been told that's weird and I must not miss him but it's what works for us.
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06-08-2016 13:01 #9
At the moment DH & I call or message quite a bit during the day. We've been renovating for the last few months and this is kind of DH's line of business, so we need to communicate a lot about decisions/schedules/materials/etc.
Before reno though we'd only occasionally message or call during the day, and only if we needed to.
My sister & I message several times a day, pretty much every day though. I work from home & she's a SAHM so it can get a bit lonely, so we just talk sh!t all day.
06-08-2016 13:01 #10
Just to be clear DH is my closest friend. I'm just not the sort of person who needs to communicate with my closest friends several times a day.
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