monnie24 has said doesn't offend me but that's just me. We where like in the end well if this is really going to happen for us it will and it did in the end but naturally after years of failed embryo transfers. So as I write this holding my new DS who is 3.5wks I know that he was meant to be. I'm 39 now and has my first at 30 and by God I tell you this the sleep deprivation and exhaustion is so much harder as you get older so to be if I was 63 and considering this I'll say shoot me now (only if I was childless though).
My neighbour came down to see me tonight and give us a pressie for DS she is 67, I asked them their opinion on this she was like do I look stupid she has 3 kids and via c-sec and their is no way I. Hell you could lay her enough to want to be a parent at that age. She loves her kids and her grandkids at the end of the day but she can hand her grandkids back when she has had enough of them
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04-08-2016 05:43 #74
Actually there are a lot of jokes about both being in nappies 😂
At least the mother is young. I suspect he will be a largely absent father anyway. And he has a bucket load of cash and I'm sure she'll have a large support network.
04-08-2016 06:05 #75
If we got down to the nitty gritty of it, I highly doubt they're doing much to help.
But they're in a situation when're they can just throw money at their problems, doubt they're up doing the night feeds and nappy changes.
The ones with no money probably just walk away, or have had a baby through an affair, so many different reasons but mostly it's the woman left holding the baby (doing the actual nurturing) so that's where the focus is as we presume it was her choice to go through with a pregnancy and not his.
For this couple though, well he's considerably older than her so I'm assuming he's taking it for granted that he'll go first. He's probably wanting to give her someone to love when he's gone. I can see all too easily how after trying IVF for a long time, how one year bleeds into another and as they're both feeling relatively as healthy as they began, how they just wouldn't stop until they were told no.
Unfortunately, putting her body through that at her age could fast track some lurking health conditions.
Not one single woman knows what she is really in for before she has her first baby. It takes a good 12-18 mths to recover and get in the groove of life again.
To bring on all that at 63, including major surgery?
It's not something I would risk at 42 never mind 20 yrs on, but I know everyone is struggling to get inside their mindset.
I feel for the woman, I really do.
The whole country is talking about this and I'm sure she love us all to buggar off.
I was playing a bit of rough and tumble with my DD yesterday and I hurt my neck pretty badly, and I thought of this woman.
There'll be no rough and tumble for them, she could break a hip.
Seriously though, I really, really hope she has a great support team around her (although going ahead with a decision like this makes me think she doesn't have anyone but her husband).
I also hope that she gets through this, there's nothing like having a child to remind you of your own mortality.
The fear of not seeing the job through is something you don't even consider before kids, and all you can think of once you have them (anytime you get sick or find a lump or whatever).
She's going to go through a lot of changes and be assaulted by her hormones after the baby so I hope she stays away from the Internet.
It's going to be a tough old slog for a bit but her child is here now and that's all that matters.
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04-08-2016 06:29 #79
We don't know a lot of things.
How long have they been together?
Where they married before and the idea of having a baby together came relatively late, like late 50s for the woman?
Or have they been married forever and for various reasons they could never conceive but as time went by the world of IVF got better and better and they clung to that hope?
Is there other issues at play? Mental health issues?
Like VP said earlier, you would think at a certain point you would make peace (on some level) with not ever being a parent?
It's an awful blow to be dealt but many people before you would have had to cope.
Has he got other children?
Have they any family help?
So many different things would paint their picture but at the core (and nothing personal to them) having a baby that late is not a good idea and shouldn't be encouraged.
If something happens to her now, it's all on the dad.
That's too high a risk for me to ever do it.
04-08-2016 07:04 #80
What if they have a support system in place for when they are unable to care for the child? A close friend or relative who may know the child for their entire life. This this make it any less selfish?
People need to stop judging. This thread is really showing how ugly some people are.
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