On grandparents raising grandchildren... in most (not all) of those cases, they already have parented, so know what they are in for.
A first time parent at "grandparent age" (I mean over 60 but my aunt became one at 40 lol) does not know. They have NO idea.
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03-08-2016 20:21 #51
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03-08-2016 20:24 #53
I personally think that 63 is too old to have a baby. I'm just thinking about the baby. Someone in the thread mentioned that people can die at any age and this is true but the father is going to be in his 80s when the little girl is 5. The chance that this baby could become an orphan in the next decade is a lot greater than if the parents were younger. It's not fair on the child I reckon. Just my opinion.
03-08-2016 20:28 #54
I certainly think a healthy 63 year old is capable of caring for a newborn. Like others though, I worry for the future. My mum is 78. She has no health issues at all and takes no medication. Despite this, she has slowed down considerably these past 3 or so years. She tires more quickly, can't walk as far, has far less stamina etc. She's really ageing.
That's what bothers me about this. Even if this lady lives a long, healthy life (and I really hope she does), she will age and I honestly think this will effect how she parents.
03-08-2016 20:31 #55
As a parent, one of my biggest fears is passing away and leaving my children without their mother. I can't imagine knowing that it would be a certainty within the next 20 years. One of my closest friends lost her on mother when she was 20, & it has seriously,seriously altered her life forever. Her mum will never be there for her when she gets married, or support her when she had her own children, or babysit her grandkids. All of those moments as an adult when she 'needs' her mum, & she isnt there. I know there are worse things, but it's just not a choice that I think is fair to be intentionally making for a child when you bring it in to the world.
03-08-2016 20:35 #56
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03-08-2016 20:36 #57
I admit I would never ever have a baby at 63 for lots of reasons. But frankly I feel that a 63 year old that loves the child and provides a stable home life for 20 years is better and more healthy than a lot of much younger parents. There are young ones (and I don't mean teens, say 40 and under) that have really toxic relationships with their partners. Who hate being parents and it shows in their parenting. That frivolously spend then have no money to pay bills or buy basics. That get pregnant for the wrong reasons.
63 is not even close to best case scenario, I won't lie. But based on being a good parent, she may well be better than those 20 and 30 years her junior.
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03-08-2016 20:39 #58
I would be closer to ok with it in relation to IVF but still not 100% as I feel there should be an age limit. But, again, I don't know what that should be.
But chances are, she has hit it already.
We just don't know.
03-08-2016 20:43 #59
03-08-2016 20:50 #60
I read Monash cut off at 53 because that's the average age of menopause.
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