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01-08-2016 14:17 #31
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01-08-2016 14:42 #34
It's not great but it could be worse
01-08-2016 14:42 #35
@Molros I am one of those people who had an unplanned baby and he was conceived during a very bad period of our relationship. DF and I feel much closer since having DS. We both have a reason to make things work. He keeps us strong together as a family. He has helped 'fix our relationship' which I don't really like saying it that way or see it that way. He has changed everything for the better. We do have our problems but what relationship doesn't. I guess not everyone is like this but I know we are.
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01-08-2016 14:52 #37
Do you believe a baby can save a relationship?
No. NO. NNNOOO!!! Having a baby with someone is a beautiful thing and connects you for life BUT it is so freaking hard. I think that the foundation that you have before bub comes is crucial. If it's solid then a lovely little family can be built on top but if there are cracks then the intensity of parenthood is going to blow those cracks wide open.
Saying all that, I would be reluctant to think someone has had a baby to save a relationship unless they actually told me that. I have noticed that before any major change that lots of couples have a little rocky patch. Before moving in together, getting engaged or starting ttc. It's kinda like the stakes are really high so tensions are high. It's emotionally charged so from the outside the relationship looks rocky but to those within it it's just a period of upcoming change.
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01-08-2016 15:29 #38Senior Member
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Hasselhoff I was genuinely wondering I know my sister had an unplanned baby that her partner was not at all happy about and they ended up separating and he has no contact whatsoever with his DD which I think very sad. She is probably in the minority and I ewpect there were other issues at play as well. I am glad your DS changed everything for the better
01-08-2016 15:30 #39
Not at any point in the near future anyway.
It's just taking him a while to realise that with the 'relationship side' being over, our roles change. If I am not his wife in ALL ways, I am not picking up after him.
He is a grown man. As far as household duties go, we are housemates and he needs to pitch in. That was the agreement. He just hasn't yet.
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01-08-2016 15:55 #40
I have to agree with Sonja, I think it is rather dependent on the reason the relationship needs to be "saved".
Infertility placed a huge strain on our relationship because it was so hard wanting something so badly and it being so far away. Getting pregnant helped us reconnect with our goals and see past the pain and resentment we both possessed towards each other for different reasons.
Our relationship has been stronger than ever since having kids, we didn't even struggle much after our first was born, but we did have our issues while we were TTC him. We both wanted kids, and then, but dp struggled to part with her pre-kids lifestyle.
Ultimately despite it being an issue for a while (excessive drinking etc) I knew she would grow up when we had a baby to care for, and she did, and she is thankful for the fact that DS is here, and that I did take a shot as I was close to being at the end of my rope for a while.
Anyway, I'm blathering now but my point is, as a general rule - probably not, but certainly in some cases it can, it depends on the circumstances.
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