I'm really sorry you feel this way.
For me, I try not to bring attention to these feelings with DH. It almost gives it more ammunition and divide than the actual person does .
As other pp's have said, try to focus on feeling good about yourself.
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31-07-2016 20:10 #21Senior Member
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31-07-2016 20:13 #22Senior Member
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Oh wowzers, i can understand why you feel that way.. Maybe go along to one or two of the social do's, see what vibe you get then.?
31-07-2016 20:29 #23
Well I talked to DH already
He brushed it off and was laughing a little uncomfortably.
I told him he knew I was right and he would be feeling the same way if role were reversed. I actually had to go on a networking lunch with a guy a couple of weeks back and DH was livid lol
He kept saying that I have nothing to worry about, that he doesn't care for her and that she isn't flirty.
I believe it but still said that it can be sending wrong messages.
If my boss was sending me these kind of messages I'd see him more like a friend. And also I'm always attracted to men of power (teachers, boss, these kind of guys) so who knows if she's the same?!
Anyway I think he was feeling a bit sheepish. Told me he would go through his messages to check them lol
Anyway I do need to take better care of myself. So haircut is next on my to do list
31-07-2016 20:53 #24Senior Member
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Glad you had a talk. My DH employed two young female staff in his business in recent months. He adores them, and when he talks about work he tells me how amazing they are. They're attractive women, however, it's all professional/above board. I would be uncomfortable and ask DH to stop if he was doing what your DH was doing.
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31-07-2016 21:05 #25
I would definetly say something and I don't think you need to dress up etc I'm sorry but no?! You are who you are. Yes if u want to feel good but not to try and impress your husband I hope you don't find that offensive.
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31-07-2016 21:10 #26
On one hand I would say it seems entirely above board but I also get why you are feeling the way you are. If I'm honest, I would feel exactly the same - that nothing was going on but it was still upsetting me.
I'm glad you talked to him. I've learned never to let things fester in a relationship. I also think maybe your feelings are pretty normal and healthy. You love him and while you know he won't stray, you worry he has a connection with her, even if it is platonic. Sometimes love is irrational but entirely rational all at the same time
And you always struck me as a very confident woman as well.
31-07-2016 21:22 #27
@monnie24 I think you have thrown my husband in the street then
In some of the texts, DH ask her if she's joining them for drinks and she replies she's already in bed, lame, like a grand Ma waa waa
DH replies "OMG Susie!!" (Let call her Susie!)
" so lame indeed!"
In another series, she's like "where are you? When are you coming?" And he replies that he waits for me to come home before jumping in a cab.
Then she's like "oh maybe EMF is making you pay for last Friday" (no idea what this was about?)
Yeap not a fan of those texts
31-07-2016 22:00 #28
My opinion is always listen to your gut. I'd be feeling off about it too, especially with that last message exchange.
It's good you're talking to your DH about it.
31-07-2016 22:08 #29
I'm glad you've spoken to your DH and he's aware of how it makes you feel. Regardless of the intent of the messages, they make his gorgeous, sexy, wife feel uncomfortable. That is hopefully enough for him to tone it down.
Still go out and get your hair done. And whatever else you need! Maybe a massage? And a glass of wine. And some cheese. Can I come too? This day is starting to sound awesome!
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31-07-2016 22:13 #30
My gut tells me nothing is going on but DH somehow enjoys the attention.
I don't blame him I think I would too. But that's the end of it, I'll make sure of it.
He might have just lost his accountant on this one though. Need to think it through but may well resign...
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