I have to say, as much as I can sense how frustrated you are with her constant interfering & pushiness, I feel for her too, her boyfriend doesn't sound very supportive or even loving. I know I would be p!ssed if I messaged my DH on FB & he didn't respond, even though he was recently active! Then he goes out until 2am and didn't pick up his phone. She definitely sounds lonely to me and needs to have a chat to her boyfriend to ship up or ship out, he's not treating her with much respect.
My thoughts are also with your uncle xxxx
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24-07-2016 20:08 #33
I think it really depends on where your friends are in their lives. If you are the first one to have kids, the other childless ones tend to fade away. But if you have friends having kids when you are, or even before you, I find they stay in your life.
Purely speaking from my own experience and feelings, but keeping someone in your life who aggregates you and is self absorbed just in case you are lonely after the baby is born isn't a good idea. It's quality not quantity for me.
24-07-2016 20:16 #34Senior Member
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My dh is about to go away for 7 weeks and tbh I have no plans as yet to catch up with anyone socially in that time and won't go out of my way to even though he keeps badgering me to book people in. I'm happy enough on my own.
So I do think it is personality-dependent!
24-07-2016 20:45 #35
Clingy friend WWYD
I enjoy talking to people online and keeping up with friends through FB, but rarely in person.
It'll be interesting for me to see whether I feel the same once I'm a SAHM too.
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24-07-2016 21:54 #36
I do very much get the clingy friend thing. I have had it before and I agree with the backing off. Just mention you are feeling overwhelmed and need a break from everyone a little bit.
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24-07-2016 22:49 #37
Yes...I think this is a personality issue (although maybe she is a narcissistic...obviously we're not in a position to judge that!). The behavior the OP posts about is not that different to how I am with my BFF...but I guess the "love" is more reciprocated. This girl obviously isn't getting the hint and holds the relationship in much higher stead than the OP...which is a bit sad 😑.
I found having babies (and divorce it turns out!) to be very isolating especially as I was a younger mum. I hated that my social life, as I knew it, disappeared. But I like people...and I know not everyone does. OP, I would just drop every hint available that you need her to back off without being hurtful...hopefully she'll get the hint.
25-07-2016 01:41 #38
You can silence her notifications on messenger from your phone.
Go to messenger. Click on the conversation with her. Click on her name at the top. Click on notifications and pick a length of time to silence them. Peace for you when you don't want to be bothered.
25-07-2016 02:29 #39
Please don't take this in offense but why don't you just ask her if she is okay? I mean WTF! If you think something is wrong. And she's behaving depressed etc have a chat.
I don't reply in full convos on messenger I don't have time. So someone will be like hey how are kids, me- yeah good exhausted wbu they will reply then I will forget to reply does that make me a nasty person? No! I'm just busy.
I text my best friend daily to point it's probably stalkerish. And tag her in rubbish. If you don't like this persons personality you need to leave the friendship
25-07-2016 04:07 #40
I've had friends like this and in my experience the friendships don't last. If you're seeing her all day at work, chatting etc I'd be annoyed too if she kept making me all night. She doesn't seem to have gotten the picture about you using less social media, which makes it more awkward now. Good luck with your chat!
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