I'm scared of everything. I know that. I'm extremely phobic. Many times it's irrational.
When I'm on a plane and about to pass out from fear, what comforts me is the statistic that even if you flew everyday for (I think) 60 years, you'd still only have a 50/50 chance of dying in plane crash the next day.
I am terrified of driving to the point that I didn't get my Ps until I was 35.
I know the statistics. I read the statistics. It's part of my attempt to function normally and not freak out every damn day.
My fear of being caught up in an attack is very, very real, and there is actually nothing I can do to quell it.
I live in a small town in rural SA. I know that I am fine here. But just like I make myself drive, I do make myself fly and travel, and the anxiety I feel, the edginess I feel and the hypervigilence when I do is present almost all the time.
The only comfort I have is that it's all not in my control, but that is the basis of my fear as well.
None of this means that I agree with what SK and Pauline are suggesting, but I am scared.
I think it needs to be acknowledged that its a real fear that many of us share. I am so glad that there are people that don't have the fear, but that's not me.
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20-07-2016 08:36 #171
Sonia Kruger - glass house?
20-07-2016 08:37 #172
Actually I think the media do have a lot to answer for inciting/creating fear.
The news corp papers are just awful.
Unfortunately when you have free press and free speech this is a downside.
I remember the attack in jail on a fellow inmate that made the front page as it was a "hate crime", yet violence occurs in jails on a daily basis without a blip.
It is frustrating.
20-07-2016 08:45 #173
20-07-2016 08:48 #174
The officers who attend domestic violence situations, child abuse and neglect are doing the BEST they can within the laws that constrain them, the VERY limited resources they have available and with **** pay, horrible working hours and conditions, public stigma (pigs anyone?), and NO support for their mental health.
So your throw away remark is completely uncalled for and the reason my DH rarely tells people what he does for a living.
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20-07-2016 09:01 #175
Treading gently here I think in BigRedV's defence she isn't referring to police officers in the firing line. That's like blaming nurses for not finding a cure for cancer. Police officers do their job and for the most part (like every profession) do it extremely well.
It's the policy makers higher up in defence forces of all kinds that I think she is referring to. The ones who focus on terrorism as a policy rather than seeking to wipe out domestic deaths.
The rate of deaths by domestic partners is extremely significant. Police officers can often do very little to change this. But those much higher up can do a lot more.
20-07-2016 09:17 #176
Sonia Kruger - glass house?
@harvs you are not alone. My MIL and SIL suffer terribly from anxiety and I feel for them. SIL is agoraphobic and can't even go to the mailbox she's so scared of the world. And simply saying "stop being silly nothing bad is going to happen" is the WRONG response.
Whilst I'm not scared of a terrorist attack per se, I'm worried for the future of this country. I look at Europe- France in particular- and worry that we too are at risk of creating clusters of minorities who have little hope, are angry with the western way of life and are isolated from the wider community. Whether my fear of this occurring is rational or not I don't know. I guarantee I'm not alone in thinking this way.
That's why @witherwings initial post rang so strongly with me. There is a real and urgent need to change how we are doing things. Society is becoming increasingly divided and we need to concentrate on acceptance, tolerance and integration (note- integration NOT assimilation) in the wider society. Simply accepting the status quo is no longer an acceptable solution to most people, hence a debate and a strategy of how they plan to do this among our leaders is needed to break this cycle of intolerance/isolation/hatred.
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20-07-2016 09:50 #177
Also if it's any consolation I'm told I'm naive and stupid for not being afraid. Depends on who you're talking to but the views are held strongly on both sides.
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