I think kids remember quality time spent. Not money and big, grand holidays but time. Board games, chasing around the house being silly.
I feel for you. My DDs father has been overseas with his new wife and her two kids giving up his holiday time with his two DDs. He was also to have spent DD9 birthday with her, but left the day before. Then a week later didn't call DD12 for her birthday until the next day (they were back from overseas by then, they forgot).
She will remember that, you can't go forgetting things like that once they get older.
Both my DDs know that he doesn't spend time with them and get rather annoyed and have both voiced the view that he is picking his step children over them.
So, no I don't think they will resent you for it at all.
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10-07-2016 14:42 #13
I hope this is ok op but I just want to add another thought.....
IMO no, children will not resent the material things that they miss out on but once they start really noticing they are being set aside while their father is off spending time and money on other people they will also start to wonder WHY. They might complain about not getting the 'things' but really they will be thinking that there must be something wrong or unworthy about themselves. We as adults know that it is ALL about xDH. It is a flaw in his character to treat his children this way but the kids can't see this. From my pov I don't think you should worry about making up for the stuff your kids are missing out on but instead put heaps of effort into boosting their self esteem and helping them see that it has NOTHING at all to do with them. It is all him and not about them. This is a very difficult lesson to learn unfortunately but they will get there. Xxx
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