An old (but not close) friend – who you don’t keep in regular contact with - invites you to their 40th birthday via a facebook invite.
Friend lives about a 5 hour drive from where you live. This same friend attended your birthday party a few years ago, travelling up with a group of other friends (which are close friends to you).
You think you would like to attend and discuss with your other (closer) friend Barney, who is thinking of going also. You and Barney exchange texts and are both warming to the idea.
You sleep on it, and after a lot of thought you change your mind for numerous reasons (logistics/money/child-free party) and let Barney know you’ve decided not to attend.
Barney texts back to say “You really should go, friend made the effort to travel up for your party”.
Do you think Barney is out of line to make such a comment, or is it a fair call? And would you respond to said text, or ignore it?
*FYI, I'm not one of the people in this scenario*
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27-06-2016 12:47 #1
Thoughts on this scenario? Friend throws shade re birthday invite.
27-06-2016 12:53 #2
I think its fair. I'd respond back 'yes I would love to but for xyz reasons I wont be able to'. If Barney then continued to push it, then they are out of line.
27-06-2016 12:57 #3Member
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I think the only fair way is if the friend was still close to you when she traveled up to your birthday yes it's a nice gesture to Send you an invite but it was a fb invite as opposed to a proper invite in the mail I still go with proper invites a nicer way to your friends family (maybe I'm not up with technology these days). if you feel bad maybe send her a card or present in the mail with apologies why you couldn't attend.
Last edited by Mum to a miracle; 27-06-2016 at 12:59.
27-06-2016 13:02 #4
If it was me I would think it was out of line. A birthday for a not close friend 5 hours away? Pass.
27-06-2016 13:06 #5
How close a friend is Barney? If Barney was a very good friend I would not be bothered by the bluntness. I would just tell him I've changed my mind and cbf. However if Barney was a sometimes not so close friend it would probably annoy me and I would just ignore.
27-06-2016 13:06 #6
It depends, was Barney excited at the prospect of having you on the road trip and possibly is secretly upset you won't be coming anymore and using that as an excuse?
27-06-2016 13:07 #7
Umm is there a duplicate thread on this or have I totally lost my brain?
27-06-2016 13:12 #8
I agree with Barney. Its a fair call and you should make the effort
27-06-2016 13:42 #9
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