Questions for your (my!) mum?

[Renn]

Honestly, it never crossed my mind to ask her anything. We didn't tell our families until I was about 8 weeks both times.

[Tiny Dancer]

I didn't ask anything. We didn't tell anyone we were TTC. I already knew she'd had multiple miscarriages and at roughly what point. Also knew her birth experiences (3 vastly different experiences). She told me after the fact about her symotoms. Nothing like my symptoms! I don't think she could have told me anything particularly helpful for my own experience.

[Mamasupial]

Ttc was completely different to my mum however birth/complications were pretty much exactly the same.

[sunnygirl79]

I don't think my mum legitimately remembers. I do know she went into labor with me spontaneously at 34 weeks, which meant I stressed my first Bub would come early - but he was 10 days late, so kind of wish I never knew mum went early!

I know she was pretty young and didn't breastfeed (wasn't often done with premmies those days). I didn't ask her much because any conversation I had with her (ie I would like to avoid drugs and try water birthing etc) was met with ridicule and she only ever said how painful childbirth was. I have never really even shared by birth stories with her.

I kind of wish I could have asked her more and involved her more but we are just too different in that respect.

[VicPark]

Wtf... I didn't tell my mum I was ttc until I was 14 weeks pregnant. Could think of nothing much worse than my mum asking me about my boobs, cervical mucus etc... Each to their own!

[misskittyfantastico]

I feel a bit odd now but even before I thought about TTC and I was 25 when we began that journey, I knew all about mums pregnancies, births, fertility - same as my maternal Grandmother! Maybe we overshare as a family!!

[clb84]

Pre eclampsia is a good one to know if your mum had. Apparently they believe that can be hereditary (reason why they induced me with DD due to my elevated blood pressure)
And really just the usual family history of any hereditary illnesses.

Like pp's have said. Not always the same. My mum had pre eclampsia a hideous 28 hour labour, was induced, wouldn't dilate so were prepping her for cs, on her way down to theatre she dilated to 10cm so back up to birth suite, forceps delivered and just yuck. I was induced but had a 5.6 hr labour!

[babybeeno1]

Never said anything at all to my mum until I was pregnant with my first but lost both of them at 10wks. After that try knew what was going on and only asked when she could sense I wasn't doing ok. My bubs now due in a few weeks they've known from the get go and they (my folks) paid for all the IVF treatments we had over the last few years as we couldn't afford to pay for it

[smallpotatoes]

I sort of knew my mum's ttc history - took a while to fall with me, miscarriage between babies. Didnt know much about her pregnancy, but I knew about her birth stories and that she breastfed us for 18 months.

I didnt even think to ask her! As for similarities in ttc, we conceived pretty quickly, so opposite experience although we also had the miscarriage between babies

[shadowangel0205]

Mum knew we were ttc.

We had many chats over the years. She has never used any contraception I her life.

Our age gaps are 4, 11 & 4 yrs between us.
She had an eptopic around mid way through the 11yr gap. She lost a tube and was told she couldn't have any more. But myself and younger sibling are alive
She was very ill during all pregnancies and weighed less when being admitted during labour than when she fell.

First bub 2 wks over.
2nd induced on edd
I was 6wks early. Her waters broke. The dr didn't believe her. 2 days later out i came.
Bub 4 was 2 wks early.
All natural births. Last two completely drug free.

My first took 6 months to concieve with a mc in there.
My second took 20ish months.
I had absolutely no symptoms with my first and only mild nausea with bub 2.


Our histories are completely different!