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    My son is 7 and he has an iPad but in no way would I allow this. Thankfully I have never had to enforce rules with it as he doesn't ever want to overuse the iPad. He has gone weeks without it even being turned on. But unless we are going on a long car ride/plane it stays at home. We have never bought it to a social place/restaurant ever so he would never think to ask. We also don't use our phones to entertain him while out, so he is accustomed to finding other entertainment. Most of his friends are the same.. They run around and play/climb trees/play sports when they get together.

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    I like pp's bring colouring in books, cars etc for DS to play with while we wait for food, he eats and then he usually goes in the corner beside the table and creates a game - last week at a breakfast he had a kinder surprise toy motorbike, two rocks, a feather and an elastic band and he was having a great old time!
    I let him watch my phone as a very last resort, probably less than once a month and we eat out 2-3 times a week - he never asks for it though, which I find refreshing - we don't limit his screen time at all as he just isn't interested in watching tv etc and would much rather play.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    This kind of comment grinds my gears. Not sure about what happened when you were a kid but when we did go to adult functions we did not and were not expected to stay indoors. We roamed. I was one of 4 siblings and with the other kids we pretty much had free reign. We could wander off and no one watched or worried.

    These days kids don't live that free life. I let my kids roam and I have a helpful parent bring them back to me. So I don't even try anymore. Yes I bring colouring and sticker books etc. But shock horror sometimes my near 3 year watches Peppa pig so I can stay a bit longer.

    Our kids are growing up in different times and I am tired of hearing how much better off we were when we were kids. I remember fighting endlessly with my siblings. And being really really bored. Yes kids need to be ok with boredom, and have a balance in their lives, but I'm not judging anyone for what I see when they go out and try and have a nice night.
    Gosh no, I was never allowed to roam. My mum was/is very overprotective.
    I never remember being bored as a kid. I only remember being bored as a teen, as I was too old for the kids, and too young for the adults.

    Same with my kids; they've never had devices, and they have always been expected to behave at events, and they always have (I do have well behaved, quiet kids though). It's only now I have a teen that he sometimes gets bored while out, as he's usually the odd one out age-wise.

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    God we roamed. Constantly. But it was north Qld and everyone let their kids do it and nothing ever went wrong for us.

    I don't take devices out with us. But I couldn't tell you the last time my kids were at an "event" where there was nothing for kids to do. All of my friends have kids and no one brings devices.

    I just think generally we need to live in the times we live in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    I'm with you OP, I can't stand seeing kids all lined up on devices, ignoring each other instead of playing and talking.

    Pubs, clubs, parties, picnics, restaurants, adults events, kids events... we all survived somehow? We actually had to find other kids, and *gasp* make friends and make up games. We could make up games out of nothing. There was always something to do. No wonder kids get so bored so easily these days; they're not given enough opportunity to develop their imaginations and social skills.
    Well let's burn all screen devices... starting with your smart phone?

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    I'm guessing a lot of the iPad usage starts in the car? See we can't give my DS phones, iPads or books in the car because he gets carsick when he looks down for too long while driving. We've been on really long road trips too. The iPad just isn't really on his radar.

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    Quote Originally Posted by michellead View Post
    I like pp's bring colouring in books, cars etc for DS to play with while we wait for food, he eats and then he usually goes in the corner beside the table and creates a game - last week at a breakfast he had a kinder surprise toy motorbike, two rocks, a feather and an elastic band and he was having a great old time!
    I let him watch my phone as a very last resort, probably less than once a month and we eat out 2-3 times a week - he never asks for it though, which I find refreshing - we don't limit his screen time at all as he just isn't interested in watching tv etc and would much rather play.
    Same here! In Italy my Mum, DD aged 4 and I stayed for a few weeks in a very remote but beautiful area. There was nothing to do besides enjoy the nature. My super imaginative little angel collected some clothes pegs and a Lego catalogue she had picked up somewhere and there we had it, instant entertainment for literally hours on end. The catalogue showed the background scenes and the pegs were the people. My Mum and I still laugh about this together, but DD has always been highly imaginative and happy to sit still. I now realise with my second that not all are like this and wonder what lengths I will go to to keep him happy in the future!!

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    That would weird me out. Social event with lots of children to play with and they are choosing screens. To me that's a warning sign - for less screen time. Being bored is a great thing for children. It's when they learn to create and entertain themselves with made up games and things. When they have learned to rely on screens or activities or other people for that entertainment, they will be out of practise and have a whinge about it. But with unfilled time they can get back to keeping themselves busy. That's important to me, that my kids can play alone and not need input or management, whether from me or other kids or another adult or a screen.

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    I can see where you're coming from OP. We grew up in simpler times where we had no choice but to make our own fun and amuse ourselves as kids.

    On the other hand, if I was to attend such an event with my DS I wouldn't dream of leaving the iPad at home! I would be hoping my DS (who has ASD) would sit still for a bit and use it, but chances are either myself or DH (taking turns) would be ghosting him around the venue whilst he wanders around touching people's stuff, trying to access the pokies, trying to wander into the kitchen, wanting to go into areas he isn't allowed to, touching someone's baby, taking someone's fork - you get the picture!

    We wouldn't just pack an iPad though - we'd pack toys and books as well. A full bag of tricks.

    Now if it was a pub/venue that catered well for children (play area), I wouldn't even need the device as my DS would be happy to play the whole time! He would choose play over the iPad any day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BornToBe View Post
    That would weird me out. Social event with lots of children to play with and they are choosing screens. To me that's a warning sign - for less screen time.
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    OR its a sign that child is overwhelmed and needs to quiet time for a bit to cope.


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    Being bored is a great thing for children. It's when they learn to create and entertain themselves with made up games and things. When they have learned to rely on screens or activities or other people for that entertainment, they will be out of practise and have a whinge about it. But with unfilled time they can get back to keeping themselves busy. That's important to me, that my kids can play alone and not need input or management, whether from me or other kids or another adult or a screen.
    Often kids that don't cope well in big groups or social situations are very good at playing alone or in small groups. In fact they may even prefer it. Just because they use screens and headphones while they are out doesn't mean they use them 24/ 7.


 

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