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    Default Has anyone been on 'holiday' alone since having children?

    Just thinking...
    im coming up on 8 years of parenting and I have not had a single night away from my children except to go to hospital and give birth to the next.

    I'm feeling more and more burnt out.

    My my husband goes away for work a lot, usually three weeks out of four he goes away. He also takes an annual end of year fishing trip with friends (4 days). He always says to me if I want to go away just book it and do it BUT I feel guilty.

    In all honesty all I'd want to do is sleep without the worry of kids waking!

    im starting to think I'd really like to and I also think a reality check about caring for four children solo would be a good thing.

    Anyone been there done it?? Thanks

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    Not long holidays but I have had about 3 overnight girl's trips and one overnight work trip. I have another overnighter to Melbourne end of next month. Once the kids are a bit older I will look to extending out to 2 nighters away from them.

    I need it to recharge and just to be adult self and do the things I like. DH doesnt go away but I occasionally go away with the kids so he gets time at home to do is own thing

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    My DS is 5 now - I've gone away for one night trips (girls nights) about 8 times and went away for a conference once for 3 nights.

    Most recently I went away for 2 nights with my girlfriends. Usually I only go for one night because I miss DS (I work full time in the week, so I cherish our weekend time together), but this time I thought the 2 nights would be good for me!

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    I take a four day weekend with my best girlfriends every year. No partners or children are allowed to come!
    It's heaven. We stay at an awesome hotel, eat, drink, shop, order room service and have the most amazing time.
    I highly recommend it!!

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    I went to Bali for 5 nights without my children on a yoga retreat. It was heaven! I also do dinner with girlfriends now and then and have been away a couple of times for weekends. I highly recommend taking time for ourselves as women... Which is different for each of us. For some it's a night out and for others it's a weekend etc. if you feel like you need it I say go for it 😊

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    None for me. I've had 3 nights away from dd (4) when I went into hospital to have ds. I honestly don't know if I would relax or enjoy myself being away from them. My child free time full stop is very, very limited (no family nearby & dh works long hours)

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    Default Has anyone been on 'holiday' alone since having children?

    Yes I have, I went to Thailand for ten nights (longer than I wanted) with my sister and two girlfriends when my dd was 4 and my DS nearly 2. Since my son was born I lost both grandparents and my mother to fast and agressive cancer all within a very small amount of time, I got a little cash from my mothers passing and dp was very happy for me to have a holiday to recoup after palliating two of my family members at home. To be honest it was the best thing I have ever done, the sleep and the alone time was amazing, I missed the kids horribly but it was great to have a chance to process things on my own.

    Edit to add, dp did say it was super stressful, at the time my daughter hadn't been diagnosed formally with ADHD yet and was full on, still is but we have things better controlled now. But he survived to tell the tale
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    Yes. In recent years DP and I went to a friend's wedding interstate. We drove there so that we could make a little road trip out of it. It was truly invigorating!! It's a real bonding experience as a couple.

    When I first split with exH I had 10 nights to myself while exH took DS home to NZ, so I nicked off to our family's beach house to chill out. Loved it!

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    Yes End of November last year I went to bali with my sister and some friends (DS1 was almost 3 and DS2 11 months) I weaned DS2 to go. Tomorrow I'm going away for two nights with the girls from my mothers group although I'm pregnant again so not really sure that counts

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    I try and get one in every year. I love it. Don't feel guilty at all. I don't even really miss my kids (bad mum alert!), just enjoy my time where I only have to worry about me, and I know my kids are having a good time in the capable hands of their dad/my parents (depending if it's a me or us holiday).
    Longest holiday has been 8 days so far...but I would happily go for two weeks now (pre-teens).

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