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Such an individual thing. Everyone's circumstances are different. The best age, is when you feel most ready.
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15-06-2016 14:26 #11Senior Member
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15-06-2016 14:33 #13
What's the best age to have a baby?
I'm currently 35 and ds (my first so far) was born in feb. I definitely wasn't ready in my 20s. I didn't meet dh til I was 29 so it couldn't realistically have happened before then anyway. I think I probably started feeling ready for a baby from 31/32 but we still weren't married, hadn't travelled etc. so after we got all that done, plus bought a house, we had a baby.
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15-06-2016 15:50 #15
I don't think there's a 'best' age. Fertility wise, it's better if it happens when you're younger, but for many it doesn't feel right to start until later.
I had DS when I was 31, and to me that was totally the right time. Can't say that it's the best time for others though!
I don't like sweeping generalisations when it comes to the age of mothers. Age does not determine one's ability to parent.
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15-06-2016 15:52 #16
I felt ready to have a baby at age 26. We had our first a year after that and I loved being a mum at that age. I had "sown my wild oats" and was well and truly over going out, socializing of a night, all that stuff that pretty much ends when you have children.
I think the most important consideration is, how many children do you want to have? For arguments sake, if you need a 3 year gap between each child's birth, and limited time of fertility, that's what's most important and unchangeable.
15-06-2016 15:54 #17
I had all mine between early 30s and early 40s. I was definitely ready. No way I would have wanted a child in my 20s. So far removed from my reality then I couldn't have contemplated it.
15-06-2016 15:59 #18
I was ready from 20! But I had DS at 24. I'll be 27 when DD arrives and so glad I won't have to do it all again.
I agree that when you're ready is the right answer, and it varies for everyone.
15-06-2016 16:30 #19
Just a warning... I am about to toot my own horn. I know in our society its often viewed as big headed or arrogant to praise yourself, but I am doing it anyway
I fell pregnant at 18. My parents worked full time and my friends vanished from my life. I had never travelled, had no career, did not have savings (although I was never broke). I was pregnant again at 21 and later at 24.
My children are now 10, 7 and 5. I am at university full time and we have bought and sold two homes. I have grown up having terrible self confidence and constantly putting myself down. But one thing I have always been certain of....I was and am an amazing mother. I am so proud of the parents that we are and have always been. We have the most beautiful family dynamics and after staying at home as a mother for 9 years I'm now slogging my guts out at uni every day to gain a career and role model for my children.
So no, older mothers do not make better parents. It is dependant on each person and their individual lives, mind sets, support systems etc etc.
Age did not define me as a parent or determine the nature of my children....that was me
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15-06-2016 17:38 #20
I had mine at 32 and 35. I had to as there was no time left to have kids, my eggs were about to expire.
I don't regret my decisions. But I have recently made a friend who had kids at 18/20. Life was hard for her. But she's now only a few years older than me, and free as a bird. She's about to go to Egypt. She can do what she wants. So I am jealous of her even though I don't regret my choices.
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