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    Default Breaking sleeping habits

    I'm a FTM with a 9 week old. For the past 6 weeks or so my ds will only sleep well if held or if I sleep beside him. I also have been feeding him to sleep on most occasions. I realise that all of these things are no-nos according to most people and have heard that sleep associations begin at about 12 weeks. I'm wanting to break these habits before it's too late and it becomes even harder. Where do I start?? Has anyone else successfully done this and what did you do?

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    Hugs. DS2 was similar but we figured out he had reflux issues which meant he wouldn't lie on his back without waking up in pain and choking on regurgitated milk. Once we got that sorted he was a bit easier to get to sleep.

    Will he take a dummy at all? We found if we lay beside him/sat beside bassinet and gently held a dummy in he would eventually nod off. As weeks went by we were able to leave him but by bit until he self settled happily (can't remember when exactly, maybe around 10-12 weeks ish).

    I find if I let him fall asleep on me then tried to transfer it often would wake him, or he would wake 15 mins after I finally got him down, which is really hard.

    During day we still struggle a bit (he is 14 weeks) but he will nap in pram so that is my fall back. Nights are a lot better though, he falls asleep on me during night feeds but the first sleep of the night I always place him in cot awake and offer the dummy if he is unsettled (and offer any reassurance he needs etc).

    I found once he started doing some sleeps in the cot it quickly became easier. I was the same - I didn't want to form a bad habit that would be hard to break later, and it just isn't practical to have him sleep on me all the time past the newborn stage.

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    We are trying to tackle this now. No real advice, more so subscribing. DD had her first sleep in the cot today, I left DH to be the mean settling guy while I had a shower!

    I'm trying to set some other sleep associations instead, so we closed the blinds, put her in her swaddle and put white noise on. No idea if this is the right approach so don't take me word for it!

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    He hates sleeping on his back, I think this is half the problem. How did you know your little one had reflux @sunnygirl79? I've wondered if that's the problem, there's no obvious screaming after a feed/projectile vomiting but he always seems uncomfortable, kicking around during a feed, pulling off, grimacing, always smells like vom.
    The dummy's a no go, he gags and chokes like a drama queen when I try.
    I think I'm just going to have to put in the hard yards and spend many nights being persistent. I just hope it's not futile.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BB77 View Post
    He hates sleeping on his back, I think this is half the problem. How did you know your little one had reflux @sunnygirl79? I've wondered if that's the problem, there's no obvious screaming after a feed/projectile vomiting but he always seems uncomfortable, kicking around during a feed, pulling off, grimacing, always smells like vom.
    The dummy's a no go, he gags and chokes like a drama queen when I try.
    I think I'm just going to have to put in the hard yards and spend many nights being persistent. I just hope it's not futile.
    There were a number of things, but a major sign for me was he would wake himself up gagging/vomiting a few mins after being laid down and would cry and writhe about looking pained. And lots of forceful vomiting through his mouth and nose around the clock, which really upset him. He only really slept upright for the first 8 weeks.

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    None of those things sound like no no's to me, feeding/cuddling to sleep & co sleeping are all normal comforting things that babies need especially at 9 weeks. Sounds like you're doing all the right things

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    @sunnygirl79 that sounds awful. I guess that's not the case here then.
    Thanks @Lil M. I must admit I love the closeness too. Just worried I'll end up with an 8 month old who cries because he's not in my bed.

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    Hi @BB77

    My DD had silent reflux - so no vomiting but very similar signs to what you described. She was fussy during feeds - pulling off, uncomfortable after feeding, crying/screaming, hating lying on her back, lots of hiccups and was congested. Our GP prescribed Losec which helped enormously- I could put her down after a feed on her back! We stopped using it at 6 months and she's been fine.

    Best of luck with the sleeping!

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    Quote Originally Posted by wobbleyhorse View Post
    Hi @BB77

    My DD had silent reflux - so no vomiting but very similar signs to what you described. She was fussy during feeds - pulling off, uncomfortable after feeding, crying/screaming, hating lying on her back, lots of hiccups and was congested. Our GP prescribed Losec which helped enormously- I could put her down after a feed on her back! We stopped using it at 6 months and she's been fine.

    Best of luck with the sleeping!
    Yes! The hiccups and congestion too, like gurgling. Did she do it at every single feed? Cos occasionally my ds is ok.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BB77 View Post
    Yes! The hiccups and congestion too, like gurgling. Did she do it at every single feed? Cos occasionally my ds is ok.
    It happened for the majority of feeds but not for all, so I was always second guessing myself. Luckily, she was my second so I had some idea of what wasn't normal colic/fussiness.

    Might be something worth checking out - if only for peace of mind.


 

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