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04-10-2016 13:55 #31
04-10-2016 14:34 #32
Your a strong women who has come so far since becoming a solo mum when DS was 3. I know your mother drives you insane but think about the positives in life.
Your DS who is so smart at school he is a great cricket and baseball player
Your uni achievements for your studies that despite everything you've gotten great grades
It's hard for you and we know you want the easier option but think about those positives
Finishing your degree and doing your honours would be amazing and then to help others like yourself who feel trapped in their bodies all the time and don't want to deal with life anymore
Hugs to you. xo
04-10-2016 14:47 #33
04-10-2016 15:06 #34
I'm not good with words and I think I'll just keep out of it. Sorry OP, it wasn't my intention to make you fee bad I was only answering your original question would you leave you child and then sent you some support...
09-10-2016 11:21 #35Senior Member
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Not that it really matters now as I'm hoping that by the end of the week he will be placed with our preferred family.
09-10-2016 11:32 #36Senior Member
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I think that ultimately the best thing is for parents and kids to stay together...but there are exceptions to this.
Your son needs to be somewhere he can have security, where he will know what he is coming home to each day, a home where there's someone who is capable of cooking dinner most nights etc.
I don't think your son has that. It's out of your control, I get that...but I think that if there's somewhere suitable for your son to go to, then he should...as long as he can still have regular contact with you.
09-10-2016 12:01 #37
I agree with FullHouse. I think where possible, a child and parent should always try to be kept together. But it's a risk assessment. It can be upsetting and disruptive to move a child to another family. But if they are not getting what they need from their parent sometimes the risk is worse from the latter than the former.
Pointless - the best case scenario here is you get well and your son stays with you. But I think you are the one thinking the clearest here. Your son's wellbeing is always foremost in your mind, that makes you a good mum, not a bad one. What *I* would be doing is placing him somewhere voluntarily, maybe with the family of a school friend? Have them assessed properly and where you have oodles of contact. Then work on you.
09-10-2016 14:17 #38Member
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I so agree with what @delirium has said. Including around what *she* would do around having oodles of contact and then working on you.
I only reiterate this because of your earlier comments about the implications for yourself of knowing your boy is being well looked after elsewhere. It sounds like you've done an incredible job of keeping your bond with your son even through all that you face... However you see yourself, your presence in this world is valuable, is important to him. No matter where he is and who he is with. You are important just as you are.
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09-10-2016 15:25 #39Senior Member
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Nothing useful from me - but some hugs for pointless. You are so strong and we can all see how much you love your son. Keep strong.
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