Our first baby is due in December and we've just discovered we're having a girl. DH is ecstatic about becoming a dad but slightly terrified about having a girl. He had no sisters or close girl cousins growing up, and although he's about as clued in to how women think and feel as any man I've ever met, he seems to feel a bit lost on raising a girl.
I have explained to him that girls are not just about fairy castles, glitter and masses of pink. When I was growing up I enjoyed fishing, camping, making mud pies, climbing trees etc. I watched Strawberry Shortcake and Transformers. He was really quite surprised. His family were very "traditional boys toys" orientated (and his extended family still say some pretty awful things when the young boy cousins etc do or say anything they consider 'girly'. It drives me mad. Seriously - telling your 10 year old son that there's no way he's going on the school camp if he's taking sewing to do on the bus because you didn't 'raise no sissy'. I just can't even... ) My family on the other hand never differentiated between boys & girls toys or activities - my brother and I just played with whatever we wanted.
Even though he is quite feminist in his views of grown up women, he seemed quite fascinated that little girls could (and quite often do), play and be interested in anything they wanted - including "boys stuff". He almost couldn't quite get his head around it when he said he supposed we couldn't get the cool racing car bouncer seat he'd seen now and I said "Why the hell not? Are girls not allowed to like racing cars or something? I like racing cars goddamnit!" lol
After our conversation he had a bit of a lightbulb moment and said "You're right, it's stupid for me to attach some pre-conceived idea of all this stuff I was going to be able to do with a son. Our daughter might like doing those things too! And our son could have been into crafts and reading like you anyway! It would have been unfair for me to expect a son to automatically enjoy the things I enjoy - I don't even enjoy the same things as my own dad!"
He is so excited about becoming a dad and likes to read so he would like to read a book on raising daughters. I'm looking for a book for him that doesn't make out that they're little strange creatures who are just into fashion or something if you get my drift! Does anyone know of a good one?
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08-06-2016 16:51 #1
Any recommendations for books for DH to read about being a Dad?
08-06-2016 16:56 #2
Haven't had time to fully read the message but DH read. One called 'So you're going to be a dad'. He really liked it, and I struggle to get him to read anything!
08-06-2016 17:03 #3
I don't have daughters but found Raising Boys by Steve Biddulph very helpful. He definitely addresses sex v gender issues and gender stereotyping. He has also written Raising Girls so might be worth a try as I'm sure it would have the same attitude towards gender stereotyping.
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08-06-2016 17:46 #6
Congratulations on your pregnancy! My DF has never been much of a reader, so when we were expecting our first I got him the 'Being Dad' DVD set. We watched them together, and both found them quite informative and amusing too. Quite a bit of Dad humour in there 😊
08-06-2016 17:47 #7
I also got him the book 'So, You're Going To Be A Dad?', but I ended up reading it and giving him the summary. I really enjoyed it, and there were a few laugh out loud bits.
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