It doesn't stop once the baby is born. Our third was a boy after two girls and for three years now we've heard "lucky he was a boy, you'd have to go again!" Now pregnant again and we hear "hope its a boy, even out those odds!"
I honestly think people have no idea what to say and will say it and then later go 'that was stupid'. Then again, you have people who are just silly in general and say silly things with no afterthought.
I'm so tired of it this time around I've swapped to telling people it's most definitely an indominous rex.
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03-06-2016 14:45 #21Member
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03-06-2016 15:11 #22
people just like to make conversation. it is just a pity most people don't engage the brain before opening their mouths. mostly there is no offence meant, so you just have to brush it off. I have heard it all too. I have four children two of each, but 'why did I have so Many children?? best of luck, marie.
03-06-2016 15:35 #23
I have 2 boys, DS2 arriving after many many years TTC/IVF. Even people who know my fertility struggles still ask if I'm going for a third to see if we get a girl. I just look at them blankly, are they for real, I never want to go through that hell again. If it happens naturally, that's fine, but I am so grateful to even have DS2 (& DS1 too of course) that I could care less that I don't have a girl. This is what I tell them and they usually change the subject.
I just keep telling myself that they probably mean well and just trying to make conversation, even though they frustrate me and I want to scream into a pillow sometimes!
03-06-2016 18:21 #24Senior Member
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Maybe just say 'Well, that's not the reason we decided to have another baby, so it really doesn't make any difference to us'. Think that'll put them politely in their place.
I've learnt one thing very quickly from my short 15weeks of being pregnant, people say stupid things and they don't even realise it. My step mother's first message to congratulate me went like this:
'So happy for you. The first 3 months are so precarious, I lost two babies at 7 weeks and 10 weeks. I pray you'll be alright'
I was tempted to reply 'Are you f'ing kidding me??' But instead I just replied thanks, I'm just taking it one day at a time. Because it's not worth getting worked up over someone else's thoughts.
03-06-2016 20:30 #25
Bet you hope it's a boy?
No (staring right at them)
(Awkward silence but I think your point with be made)
04-06-2016 15:54 #26
I just had baby boy #5 so you can imagine the comments I got. I ended up simply saying that if it's a girl I may freak out as I only know what to do with boys now. I find the comment so rude and I know it's usually just conversational but it feels like they are saying another boy wouldn't be as wanted as a girl.
04-06-2016 17:02 #27Senior Member
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I'm sick of it and I only have one boy. I'm 15 weeks and everyone expects me to be desperate it's a girl. It feels offensive that I'm not satisfied with my boy. Or that I shouldn't be satisfied. Of course i would love a girl. But I'd also love my son to have a brother as I think I couldn't give him a more special gift. Either way it'll be awesome!
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04-06-2016 17:53 #30Senior Member
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This is actually me right now. I am pregnant with our fourthI have three daughters two of them are twins and we aren't finding out what we are having but every second person says "hopefully it's a boy", "your poor husband" and "so your going again for the boy". It really irks me because my hubby and I adore our girls and we would be over the moon if we were to have another girl and equally as happy with boy.
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