I planned to take 6 months off and everyone told me my priorities would change once she was born and I'd want to take the full 12 months off. Well 5 months in I was going insane, I was so bored and over it and pestering work to get back to me about what my part time arrangements would be. I was in my element when I got back to work 3 days per week. I ended up spending a few days a week at the shops, a few days with my parents (I know you don't have family nearby) some time trying to clean with a baby, and tones of time trying to get her to sleep lol.
I'm actually nervous about having another baby because I'll have to do the SAHM thing again! Though I won't put as much pressure on myself to make the baby sleep next time around so hopefully it will be more enjoyable.
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01-06-2016 11:40 #21
01-06-2016 12:19 #22
thanks for all the input ladies.
I wouldn't say I'm bored as in, sitting around with nothing to do type boredom. I actually barely sit down all day, I'm always DOING something. I guess I just find the repetitiveness quite tedious...I'm not mentally stimulated.
this morning has been ok..I opened a trading account for ds so that took up a couple of hours lol.
01-06-2016 12:21 #23
like does anyone wish you could split the mat leave with your partner/hubby? was just thinking, after like the first 12 weeks, it'd be ideal if partner/hubby could work part time and do say, 2 days at home and I could work 2 days a week and do 3 days at home. would be so much easier!
01-06-2016 12:31 #24
With DS1 I was itching to go back to work around 6 months. This time round I never want to go back ever. Lol. It's early days though.
I don't know what's changed exactly. I loved pregnancy this time (hated it last time, both easy pregnancies). I am loving being a SAHM despite the difficulties. I think I just feel this is it, this time will go so fast and I have the rest of my life to focus on career so I will enjoy my days with my boys while I have them.
I don't get bored. I do go stir crazy at home but not from boredom. I think once DS2 has consistent long day sleeps I can get into home projects etc. I go to gym, mum & Bub yoga, walks down the beach etc. And I have a preschooler to drop off, pick up and entertain so never a dull moment.
I am hoping to extend my mat leave past 12 months to 18. If money was no object I wouldn't go back to work until kids much older.
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01-06-2016 13:39 #28Senior Member
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Unfortunately part time is not an option in DHs industry but it'd be great if he could work 4 days a week or take 3-6 months off to take over!
01-06-2016 13:52 #29
I've always said that I would have loved to go back to work for the first year and then taken a year off for the second year! Toddlers are so much more fun than babies I found it boring and isolating, and with DD (second child) I had PND and still feel guilt over not enjoying my time with her.
I found I didn't get along with other parents. I was quite a lot younger and poorer than the mums in my mothers group and didn't click with anyone. I kept sane by spending lots of time on BH, and I also arranged lots of lunch dates with friends who were working- I wold head into town and meet them near their offices.
I spent a fair bit of time with MIL when DS was a baby, and by the time DD was born my mum was retired too so I spent lots of time with her.
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01-06-2016 13:56 #30
I really enjoyed the first 6-7 months of mat leave and then wanted to go back to work part time. I was unable to go back to work early so rode out a full year. The year is up today and my work have asked me to extend my mat leave as they have nothing for me to do 😩
I'm in the same boat of not knowing what to do all day! I mainly catch up with friends from mothers group but they are starting to go back to work and moving away - my network is shrinking. Of course I also do cleaning, shopping, cooking, etc. DF works away and I'm becoming increasingly lonely and in need of intellectual stimulation.
So slowly but surely going insane.😁
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