As for your comments, thanks for your opinion.
It has been suggested by another poster (sorry, memory like a fish) and now also BlondeinBrisVegas that because I am the problem medically, I am feeling emasculated about another man having to complete what I cannot.
Even thinking about it makes me feel anger.
I think the issue has been identified and now I need to see what can be done, if anything, for me to get around it.
I cannot say either way, but perhaps it is all quite overwhelming. I don't know.
As for my partner, she is the reason I am posting here. I'm trying to find help for this issue before our relationship needs help.
In an emergency I guess there isn't really any time to think. I would like to think that I would not think twice about it. I do know that I would not stand in the way of needed care regardless of who's providing it. What I don't know is how I would feel about it afterwards.
With the issue likely identified I would like to say that a male in an emergency setting would be a non event for me. I just don't know and I hope that I never find out.
Thanks for your input.
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29-05-2016 12:10 #71
29-05-2016 12:13 #72
I'm as Aussie as they come. Although I am first born Australian in my family, with most coming from South Africa and Rhodesia, our roots are British and Scottish.
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29-05-2016 12:19 #73
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29-05-2016 12:20 #74
If you go into something with a suspicious mind, you'll see lots of things that just weren't there, in my opinion (eg smirks and smiles).
Is this part of the reason for you/her wanting a homebirth? Greater control?
For what it's worth, i had a male midwife look after me for some of my antenatal care ( including a stretch and sweep trying to encourage labour) and he was great.
29-05-2016 12:20 #75
Point being, only since fertility issues has this issue arisen.
The home birth is something we discussed long before our fertility problems. We got pregnant accidentally in December 2014 (the reason I created an account with BH).
She told me what she wanted and we both agreed on what would be a good plan. I didn't try to change or compromise on any of her wishes as we agreed on them all.
The home water birth is something she's always wanted or at least a water birth in a hospital. I know it doesn't always turn out that way but for now, it's the goal. It's her goal and was aimed for before she even knew me.
29-05-2016 12:41 #76
I don't think I have mentioned unnecessary examinations in my posts. Maybe I have. I'm not sure. But that's not really the issue that I have been facing.
I covered the home birth in more detail in my post just previous to this. You would not have seen it as I was still typing when your post came though. But in short, no. The home water birth was and is completely her idea. Nothing to do with me and everything to do with her own uncompromised wishes.
Never heard of a stretch and sweep.
29-05-2016 12:48 #77
I wouldn't normally post that info in the forum but I think it's important to clarify.
29-05-2016 12:49 #78Senior Member
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Curious, you mention going through 5 miscarriages with previous partners, did you feel this way during the IVF process with them? (I assume these were IVF babies also, as you mentioned previously that it's you with a medical problem and talk openly about your feelings of guilt).
29-05-2016 12:50 #79
Failure. Not masculine.
These procedures are not sexual in nature. Not for me, definitely not for her.
But I still can't shake that I am not comfortable having male fertility/gynaecology Drs unless there is an emergency.
29-05-2016 12:52 #80
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