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    Quote Originally Posted by lileitak View Post
    It's hasn't gone "there"...

    It's the possessiveness and ownership in his "tone" which needs to be discussed with a professional.

    Re: children, similar to other posters, what if a daughter required a male doctor for whatever reason?

    What if his wife, god forbid, needed emergency care by a male GP during labour?

    It is not "normal" to sexual medical procedures. And I'm not convinced this stems from inadequacy due to MFI.
    You don't need to be convinced of anything. You're not a professional.

    OP just close the thread. It's not helping anymore.

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    I don't normally say this but honestly if the op was female and the topic reversed I doubt there would be so much harshness.

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    Can we all please calm down and lay off the OP? He has many times advised he will seek help from a professional. If you read all his posts you will see that.

    We cannot imagine how he feels right now. Having fertility issues brings out many many things you did not know existed. We are not males. We react differently. So give him a break.

    He has also said he prefers female dr/nurses. We all have preferences.

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    No wonder men hardly post on BH ..

    I applaud you for starting a thread..

    I wish you and your wife all the very best !

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    Default Irrational problem. Looking for anything to hold on to.

    Quote Originally Posted by Louise41 View Post
    No wonder men hardly post on BH ..

    I applaud you for starting a thread..

    I wish you and your wife all the very best !
    I think that's more to do with how children are predominantly birthed and raised by women and not by men.
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    I'm normally extremely pro-woman on this forum but I agree with Sonya and others. The op's first post had me worried. But he seems like a dude struggling with his feelings over his own infertility which is transferring onto a type of possessiveness or jealousy bc he can't get his wife pg himself.

    I'm with Sonya. If anyone insinuated my husband was that 'type' around little girls he'd come out proverbially swinging.

    I feel sorry for the poor guy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    You don't need to be convinced of anything. You're not a professional.

    OP just close the thread. It's not helping anymore.
    Very true but that is the beauty of an open forum.

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    Members it seems this thread is getting a little heated and/or personal, if you personally feel posts are not in the keeping with the spirit of BubHub please report. The Moderators read all reports and ONLY the Moderators can see reported posts.

    Think about your responses with some self-moderation, as in, would you be prepared to say what you write to a person's face?

    Please also keep in mind this is the IVF section and therefore may have vulnerable members reading along.


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    Quote Originally Posted by lileitak View Post
    It's hasn't gone "there"...

    It's the possessiveness and ownership in his "tone" which needs to be discussed with a professional.

    Re: children, similar to other posters, what if a daughter required a male doctor for whatever reason?

    What if his wife, god forbid, needed emergency care by a male GP during labour?

    It is not "normal" to sexual medical procedures. And I'm not convinced this stems from inadequacy due to MFI.
    The emergency care point has been made already. In emergencies this is irrelevant. But while there is a choice I am not comfortable.

    I am only concerned about gynaecological issues.

    If my daughter would need a dr for any need besides these I am fine. Male or female. But as soon as undies come off, I am finding a female for her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TCK View Post
    The emergency care point has been made already. In emergencies this is irrelevant. But while there is a choice I am not comfortable.

    I am only concerned about gynaecological issues.

    If my daughter would need a dr for any need besides these I am fine. Male or female. But as soon as undies come off, I am finding a female for her.
    It was the same for me when I was a child. Until I was in my 20s and making my own choices my gynaecologists were always female. It's how my mother (who is a midwife and very used to working with male obstetricians) and my father preferred it.

    I have 3 girls. Their doctor is a male but as soon as my eldest gets older she'll be seeing a female for any issues she doesn't feel comfortable seeing a male about.

    I have nothing against male doctors at all and all my doctors are male but if I have a choice and my daughters comfort is involved then we'll be seeing females.

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